“Feel empowered because you’ve died a little whilst trying to live. Don’t lose yourself in the process of people-pleasing. Rebuilding one’s self-worth requires an open mind; don’t close your heart, those valves work in two ways. Bounce back, align those emotions, focus on your consciousness and always remain humble whilst doing so.  ~Mekella Mehmet-Yesil~

The first seven years of my life were relatively uneventful from my perspective. We were an ordinary family doing ordinary things. My dad, an immigrant, worked at two jobs to support his large family – ten children-  in all of whom I’m the seventh eldest. He also had a larger vision to own his own security company, and was successful in becoming the first Indian man to set up a registered security company in Cape Town back in the 60’s.

Weekends he devoted to his family, and these inevitably involved camping trips or other outdoor activities. We had repeats of dhal and rice for many meals and wore hand-me-downs from older siblings, but we were happy. My mom was quiet and sensitive, and the nurturer of the family. I was a clingy child, and have very distinct memories of holding onto my mom and crying endlessly. I found it difficult to articulate my feelings, and the only way I knew was to cry for attention. I felt miserable and unwell a lot of the time.  Whether it was this or the fact that I had a sister a few years older than me with polio, as well as three younger siblings, two of whom were seriously ill since birth, I felt lost and scared.

I was nearly 8 years old when we moved to our own home across the street. We had watched for several months as it took shape, and we were excited to move into our own home. I had started primary school a few months earlier, and as I was a painfully shy child, my first few weeks at school, away from the comfort and security of my home, was horrendous. I hated it! I didn’t speak a word until I overheard my teacher talking to her colleague in earnest about me one day. She was concerned that perhaps I was in the wrong class and needed to be transferred to the Afrikaans-medium class. I broke my silence there and then!  My memories of school beyond that, quite ironically, was of a happy time. I had lots of friends and a few close ones. Doing very well academically may have had something to do with my popularity.

I am not who you think I am. You are what you think I am.

My mom died when I was 10 years old, incidentally the same year I first started menstruating. I was prone to fainting spells until it was discovered I suffered from a severe iron deficiency. I was always tired and unwell and lacked energy. Despite that, I was an active child. After my mom’s death, it felt like a dark cloud had descended upon my family…just a general morbidity that clung to the air. My dad became more immersed in building his “empire”, and by the time I reached high school, we were doing very well financially.

Our double garage no longer housed our cars but was a mini-supermarket all kitted out with deep-freezers and shelves for my father’s regular bulk-buying trips to Makro. Weekends were for entertaining around the pool and food was always a focus. Something had changed in him though. While the old, loving father still showed up at times, he was prone to mood swings and as easily as he could switch on his charm, so too he would have angry outbursts directed at us. On such occasions, his behaviour bordered on vindictive and he would become completely unrealistic in his demands. We were forbade from speaking Afrikaans, a language he didn’t understand, and if he was in a particularly foul mood, he would communicate to us in HIS language, an Indian dialect; a language we did not understand and could not respond to.

The boys had free reign, as is the case in most Indian families, while the girls were restricted in many ways. We were not allowed to cut our long hair nor could we wear denims as they were “skollie” clothes. I found it difficult to reconcile my image of the kind and caring father I once knew with this emerging picture of a tyrant and dictator. My siblings had a way of dealing with this abusive behaviour by humorising it. Inside me, though, there was a growing resentment for what I knew and felt to be a violation of ME. I found it increasingly difficult to call him DAD, and avoided him as much as possible. I lived for my days at school where I continued to excel and had many friends. Back home felt like a prison, and I isolated by developing a love for reading and drawing. I tried to make myself as invisible as possible, and daydreamed about the day I would be famous and acting on a big stage. I think all I really wanted was to be noticed.

I was also aware that I felt different to my siblings. It was just a niggly feeling that left me uncomfortable and ill at ease. I kept a lot of my feelings to myself especially after often being called oversensitive. I didn’t understand this and it deeply upset me each time I heard it. Why was no-one feeling or seeing things the same way I did? Was there something wrong with me? I started becoming preoccupied with the same question “Why was I here?” constantly drumming through my head, but more particularly after an incident where I felt misunderstood. I wished they would only take the time to understand me! I eventually figured some time later that I had a heightened sense of awareness, a feeling of having knowledge of things without really understanding why. While it felt frightening at first and made me anxious, I came to accept it as one of my biggest gifts.

Adolescence hit me with a bang. By age 14 or so, and thanks to my Indian heritage, I was sporting a moustache that most young boys would be proud of!  It was a terribly painful and embarrassing time for me. I started hating being outdoors, and was teased endlessly, not by my friends but by my siblings.  For some time they focussed all their attention on me and pulled pranks on me. One particular event that I found hard to forgive was my sister sending me to the kitchen, and then all of them closing the interleading doors to the passage. I was afraid of the dark and stood there petrified but they didn’t care. They were having fun at my expense. I promptly added them to my hate list.

By the time I reached my penultimate year in high school, I lost interest in my schoolwork. Prior to this, I had only ever had reason to speak to my father at end of term when I presented my report card. I was never in trouble. Now I needed to explain why I wasn’t doing well, and I didn’t have the courage to tell the truth even though I desperately wanted to. I felt sad, angry and empty and had started gaining weight, not massive amounts but enough for me to feel more inadequate about myself. In my matric year, my step-mom, who had arrived on the scene 3 years earlier, came to my rescue and sent me off for electrolysis. The ugly duckling had finally transformed into a swan!! Quite ironically, my name, Hoosne (correct spelling Husna) means beautiful in Arabic. I felt anything but beautiful until then! My name being spelt incorrectly didn’t help either. If my plan was to remain under the radar, being asked to pronounce my name over and over again seemed like a punishment.   

At the end of this year, I initially declined my dad’s invitation to join my step-mom at the High Rustenberg Health Farm where she was attempting to lose some weight. He thought it a good idea for me to “rest” before starting university. It was only after he suggested that I could cut my hair if I wanted to, that I jumped at the idea. I wasn’t going to pass that up! I did lose a few kilos and enjoyed the healthy experience. This was a very empowering time for me.

Embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters in our lives won’t have a title until much later.

My first year at UCT was a complete disaster. I ended that year feeling like a complete failure especially after having to deal with my father’s anger. His disappointment would have been enough for me. Humiliating me by broadcasting to all and sundry what a failure I was, was just too much to bear. I fell into a deep depression that December holidays. By the time February (and the start of the new academic year) came around, I had lost nearly 17 kgs. I had no will to live and without realising it, I had stopped eating. I only realised the gravity of the situation when my father forced rice water down my throat and lectured me on anorexia. It was also during these holidays that I believe I sub-consciously made the decision to leave home.

I had two failed attempts at running away. I knew I needed to bide my time. Over the next 4 years, I made peace with my siblings and developed a close bond with them. I had my own car and made sure to spend as much time away from home as possible. I had freedom of movement and that’s all that mattered then.  I applied myself to my studies and worked really hard, finally obtaining my degree in social work and my licence to freedom.

The upside of the ‘unhealthy’ weight loss was a feeling of confidence I had never felt  before. I received compliments before even realising that my body had drastically changed. For the first time I felt like I was in the driver’s seat and weight loss was the defining element in this feeling.

The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own.

It took me only 5 days to make my decision, all done undercover for fear of being stopped in my tracks for a third time, and I arrived in Durban on a late-night flight, went for an interview that same morning and by 11am, had my first job! I then took a walk down West Street where I shopped around until I found a Ronald Sassoon jeans my size. It felt like my “long walk to freedom” and I was bursting with pride. My last stop was to buy a Quran and prayer mat.  Then I spent the next few days looking for a car that my R2000 (back then) could match. I remember proudly counting out every single note as I handed over the cash. I had given up everything that was familiar to me- a comfortable upbringing, my own car (even though I didn’t own it), and my siblings, whom I had grown to love. But nothing compared to my newfound freedom. For the first time, I felt I could breathe with my entire body. For the first time in my life, I felt absolutely free. With my first salary, I was able to afford my own flat. I was on a roll. For the next few years I felt like I was walking on air. I was definitely unstoppable.

It was during these years on my own doing lots of introspection, and no doubt working in the mental health field, that I came to a better understanding of myself. To my relief, I discovered that there was nothing wrong with me! My reaction to being called oversensitive had always bothered me. I now understood that I was one of a small percentage of highly sensitive people, and this explained  A LOT!!! My great sense of intuition, and why I felt more deeply about things, sometimes to the point of being overwhelmed; that due to my sensitivity I reacted more emotionally (and this was not a bad thing), and that I cried even in response to happy events, my deep connection with the world, and so on. This new knowledge was so liberating. All these years I had felt deeply criticised for being “too sensitive” and that I was overreacting.  My sensitivity was not a curse as I had believed, but a blessing. As I learnt to embrace my authentic self, I felt powerful beyond measure. I was finally able to make peace with my resentments.

“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are not alone.” ~Audrey Hepburn~

I know that I am kind and caring, and go out of my way to ensure my loved ones are happy. I’ve always had the ability to cultivate meaningful relationships. I love focussing my energies on people who value and appreciate me, and in return, have been very fortunate to attract people into my life who add meaning to my existence.

Trust yourself. You’ve survived a lot and you’ll survive what is coming.

Shortly after my 38th birthday, my husband and partner of 13 years passed away after routine surgery. At the same time, my two older children who are asthmatic were hospitalised due to their inability to cope with the ongoing stress. After the initial shock of his untimely death had worn off, I had weeks and then months of anxiety-filled days intertwined with more sorrow than I had thought possible. My soulmate, the love of my life, the one person I trusted with my life and the only one who was capable of lifting my mood in a split second, was no longer there. I was devastated. I was left to raise our five children, the eldest barely 12 years old. The sheer enormity of the task that lay ahead frightened me. To try and jog my memory around how I survived, is nearly impossible. I do remember very dark days but I also remember looking at my children and seeing a bit of him in each one of them-his generosity and kind-heartedness, his wicked sense of humour, his dazzling smile, his “connection” with people and his love of music.

Face Everything and Rise.

I learnt to train all my focus and energy on them. It wasn’t all smooth-sailing. I was passionate about my work in the addiction field and had a good job, but I was unprepared for being a single-parent and only one income. I embraced my challenges by immersing myself in my work to the point of being head-hunted. I was brilliant at my job (I say that without a hint of arrogance but rather as an expression of my passion for working with individuals in recovery) and made it work for me. Within three years, I had taken my family to a comfortable place financially where we were able to afford our first few holidays. I also treated myself to a few holidays abroad . Emotionally it was tough and that was my time out to re-energise. For a long time I refused to take off my wedding rings and I hated being called a widow. I felt angry and cheated but had little time to wallow as there were five human beings utterly dependent on me. I put up a brave face for them when they were around. At night I cried myself to sleep. My children only had one childhood and I wasn’t going to screw that up…. and slowly we started counting our blessings.

They continue to be the single most important thing in my life. Our lives were a strange dance of extreme highs and very low lows but through all that, I did for my children what I would have liked others to do for me. I encouraged them from day 1 to grasp opportunities with both hands even if it meant me running between a ballet, soccer, hockey and drama class. I would do it again. I educated all five of them, and they all hold down professional jobs (barring the youngest who is currently at university). I have taught them values which have held them in good stead as they journey through their own adult lives. More than that, my connection with my children transcends any petty disagreement we may have on any given day, because they are relationships cemented in trust, honesty and love. In my eldest daughter’s words “I remember a time when it felt like we were in a bubble”. What she was referring to was the space we had created for our children to thrive in-a safe and happy space where they were unaffected by the turbulent nature of the world around them.

Ironically, in 2006 when we were at our most stable as a family, I was swept off my feet and married for a second time. I so desperately wanted to fill the void left by my larger-than-life late husband that I missed the red flags. I wanted to recreate that happy bubble.  5 months later this marriage was dissolved. I was left spiritually, emotionally and financially broken, and physically incapable of functioning properly. I felt like I was dying a slow death, and remember thinking death would take all the pain away. In a matter of months, I had “given” away everything that I had worked for and had placed my childrens’ lives and my own in jeopardy. I felt guilty and ashamed for what I regarded to be my mistake. My kids held onto me and breathed life back into me. It remains as the most destructive period  in my life but one that’s taught me the most lessons.

Since 2009, I’ve experienced a series of losses of close family members, my father and 3 siblings, and my beloved cat. In 2009, my youngest daughter was also diagnosed with diabetes, and later lipodystrophy. I struggled to focus on my private practice, and by 2010, I had stopped working completely and took time out.  But each loss took its emotional toll on me. In July 2017, a mere 7 months after my sister and close confidante had passed away, I was involved in a horrific car accident. I remember one of my children jokingly asking the next day if I had time to say a last prayer. My last thought, in fact, as the truck continued to plough deeper into the driver’s side of my car was “Is this how it’s going to end??” Hell no! I wasn’t ready yet!!

ENTER SLEEKGEEK

We all had a moment in life when everything clicked in, and we were blessed with guidance. – 

How exactly the Sleekgeek Group landed on my Facebook feeds, I have no idea. But shortly after this incident, I started seeing posts of people getting their lives together here on Sleekgeek. I think there may have been an influx of posts from the  Winter 8-Week challenge.

I was intrigued. I felt like I was given another chance, and being deeply spiritual, saw this as my sign. I had accumulated a considerable amount of excess weight between 2015-2017 which left me feeling uncomfortable and inadequate.

I wanted to lose as much weight as Yajna Kilawan, and transform my body as much as Hermien Elago did! Needless to say, I did neither.  

Instead I joined the 30 Days Healthy Habits challenge. It was a simple enough exercise and there was no pressure. For the first time in ages, I was able to do something purely for myself and to my surprise, I lost 3 kgs. During this time, I celebrated my 57th birthday and chose a hiking trip over cake and tea. I was horrified when I saw the photos taken on our hike.  My determination grew and soon I had signed up for my first Sleekgeek Summer8-Week challenge with Team Leader Jana du Toit, who literally held my hand all the way through. What a positive experience that was.

During this8-Week challenge I quit sugar completely and cut back on my carbs. I tried to make healthier food choices wherever possible, cut out fizzy drinks completely and substituted it with water. I also tried to walk as much as possible as I was fairly inactive until this point. Another 9kg loss felt fantastic but what I valued most was the positive changes in my mindset and mental wellbeing.

In recent years I felt worn down by life and responsibilities but here I was getting excited about life again. The daily affirmations from my children and others who supported me on my journey, especially on Sleekgeek, made the journey easy. I never felt alone. I recently completed my second challenge and although this challenge didn’t go according to plan, I did lose more weight.  I managed to maintain my weightloss since the first challenge by making healthy choices in everything I do, whether they be related to food or exercise or setting boundaries on what or who I will allow into my space.

The last challenge has seen me take charge of my journey. From being a solitary Sleek at parkruns to initiating my own daily walk with other Sleeks in my neighbourhood, and networking with other like-minded ‘Sleeks’ (I wasn’t aware that there were so many just up the road from me)…I know you all have my back and value your support.

What I love most about my journey is having reconnected with the ‘old’ me. I discovered that I was at a point where I was becoming complacent with a mediocre existence, and having transformed my life, my energy has now shifted for the better.

For some years now, I had allowed myself to be distracted from focussing on myself, and my life had become less purpose-driven. I had subconsciously shelved my plans to start my own massage therapy practice. In the past few months, I have set up practice and I am ready to go!

Here are a few tips that helped me along my journey.

1. 1. There’s no better time than NOW to make your first move. Procrastination only makes matters worse as the voice in your head doesn’t go away anyway.
   2. Live your life with authenticity. The more real YOU are with yourself, the easier it gets to attract realness into your life.
   3. Live out your dreams and dream big. You can do anything you set your mind to. At 57, I’m living my best life.
   4. Take small steps and build on that. From struggling to do 2000 steps at the start of my journey, I now do daily walks covering many kilometres. I have also recently joined a gym close to home
   5. Focus on yourself. Don’t worry about someone else’s progress. Ensure you get to the finish line.
   6. You are not alone. Embarking on a life-changing journey can be extremely daunting. Network with other like-minded people. The help and support I’ve received from fellow Sleeks as well as family and friends, has been invaluable and makes it so much more fun.
   7. Keep it simple. I don’t allow myself to become overwhelmed and lose focus. Have a simple plan and stick to it.
   8. The more you give, the more you receive. My children and I are involved in various charities. It gives us purpose and keeps us humble.

The past 9 months feel like a re-birth. Before joining Sleekgeek, I was weighed down by lots of sadness. I have learnt to let go of the past and move on, and I am immensely grateful for having this community to support me.

May we all continue to uplift and inspire!

Much love

Hoosne

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My name is Dee Coetzee and I am 49 years old. 

I was always a skinny girl, up to and beyond matric.  I was one of the “lucky” ones. I could wear what I wanted, where and when I wanted, no problem.  I was liked in High school, had quite a few friends at school, was a “goody two shoes” lol. I hated upsetting my mom in any way, so I completed my matric like a diligent student.  I was the 1st child in our immediate family to complete and pass matric, something I’m immensely proud of.  Small feat, but means a great deal to me. Wearing my pretty blue dress at my matric ball with my “Anita Baker” hairstyle, I enjoyed the night to it’s full content.

I finished Matric in 1988, and started working immediately after, as I wanted to help my single mom with providing for my siblings and I.   We were 8 children, being raised by a single mom  I loved my mom with everything I had and made it my mission for her to go through life with as little inconvenience as possible, this was my way of thanking her for what she did for my siblings and I.  So I sacrificed me having a tertiary education in exchange for providing for my family.

I was 5yrs old when my dad passed on.  I don’t remember much about him, snippets here and there, even though my mom always entertained us with stories about him.

After matric I worked for 1 year in Cape Town and thereafter left for Jo’burg where I was offered a nice Semi Secretarial Position.  I made sure that I sent money home every single month, so my mom would not struggle.

I had my eldest daughter at the age of 24 and the youngest when I turned 36.  Up until then I was quite happy weight wise. I weighed a comfortable 63kgs and picked up a measly 10kgs during my last pregnancy.  After the birth of Tamia, my youngest, things fell apart….

Weight gain and quick fixes

I rapidly gained weight.  I didn’t know how to handle this extra fat attaching itself to my body so I just jumped into any weight loss remedy I could think or hear of.  I was a Weight Watcher, Weigh Lesser, Sureslimmer, Herbalifer, 3-day dieter, Soup dieter, Durominer, you name it, I tried it, hahaha!!! Thinking back to these days makes me quite sad, because I was so confused.  I would try something for 1-3 weeks and then move onto the next “get thin quick” scheme.

The Holiday that changed it all

This continued until I reached a turning point in January 2017.

I went on holiday in Jan 2017 with my daughter and sister to The Wilderness .  It was during these 2 weeks that I realized how uncomfortable I was weight wise.  I had heart palpitations at the most ungodly hours. I would wake up in the middle of the night with my heart beating like a bongo drum, loud and fast.  I knew something was wrong and I had to do something to fix it. I also started suffering from sleep apnea.

My daughters used to make jokes around my funny sleeping habits, but what they didn’t  know was that it was worrying me immensely. I had trouble walking long distances, getting dressed and just doing simple things around the house.  I would get breathless for no apparent reason. I knew I had gained a “bit” of weight… but did not imagine it to ever come to this point… Looking back at my holiday pics, I told myself “you are fat girl, you need to do something”.  I hated taking pics, but did it, because I didn’t wanna feel left out.

This event, “the holiday” is what changed my whole mindset towards myself.  It was during this holiday that I decided when I’m back in Cape Town I WILL do something about my weight.  I hated the way I looked…

Enter Sleekgeek and results!

Back from holiday, I decided it’s time for a change.  I scouted Facebook for some advice and by divine intervention I stumbled upon the SleekGeek Facebook Group, hallelujah!

I was a Silent Sleekgeek for a while. I read, read, read whatever I could.  I went onto the website, read some more. I was thirsty for knowledge, how to get started, what to do, what to eat, what not to eat, etc.  And then I read about Rebooting, saw awesome pics and stories about how people were turning their lives around and that is when I decided “Lemme give this SleekGeek “thing” a go.  I decided to try the Sleekgeek Reboot for 1 month, strictly according to the rules and regulations and see where it takes me. No cheating, no shortcuts. Reboot for exactly 30 days. If nothing happens then the saying “weight loss after your 40’s is impossible” is true!!  Right, shopping done, prep done, starting on the 16th of Jan 2017 until 16th Feb 2017.  

The Sleekgeek Reboot yielded a lovely 7kg loss, Yay for me!  I was ecstatic! So this is possible! Weight Loss post 40 years is indeed possible, I was soooo happy

I then decided to have a complete lifestyle change.  Change the way I eat, change the way I live my life on a day to day basis, just give myself a total body makeover.  I started a Low Carb High Fat (LCHF) eating lifestyle as well as being moderately active and by October 2017 I had lost a whopping 17kgs.  I moved from 94 to 77 kgs in a matter of 9 months.

I then became stagnant, struggled to lose further, even though I was still following my usual routine of LCHF and exercise.  In January 2018 I decided to take up running as an additional fitness regime. I met an awesome group of Sleeks who reside in Mitchell’s Plain and surrounds and together we formed an Informal Fitness and Running Group.

We run and gym on alternate nights and weekends we do the formal running events. This has helped me immensely in keeping focused. We also do the weekly parkruns if and when we can. They are a great motivating bunch and I’m so blessed to have them in my life

#mytribemyvibe

In January 2018 I won a FREE ENTRY into the New Year Sleekgeek 8-Week Challenge  and that’s where I found the focus, discipline and courage to shed an additional few kgs of my body .  Thanks to Elan, Eric and The SleekGeek Community for all you do for us “ordinary and normal” people.  You guys are AWESOME!

I am now 8kgs to goal or comfort, whichever comes first.  I am living my best life, eating healthy, exercising moderately and keeping a positive mind.  I have embarked on this journey for me and me alone. I am immensely proud of myself for coming this far.  A total of 21 kgs lost to date!

My personal advice to those wanting to change their lifestyle and shed some weight would be:

1. Start today, don’t wait till tomorrow, next week, next month, next year.  Today is your day!!!
2. Start off by making small changes, eg less sugar in your tea/coffee, less bread, etc
3. There are lots of eating lifestyles, eg. Paleo, Banting, etc.  Do your homework and choose the one best for you.
4. Try and stick it out for as long as you can.  I gave myself 30 days when I started. It’s been 1 year and 4 months and I’m still hooked.  This is not a diet, this is a lifestyle
5. Become active, walks, parkruns, hikes and trails.  Start slow and build from there
6. Ask, ask, ask on the SleekGeek Facebook Group if you are unsure.  A community of 80 000 + people are available to help you.  There’s always someone online to help.
7. Focus, determination and dedication is what got me to where I am today.

I am blessed.

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From an early age, I loved food. Food was a time for celebration, a time to be with friends or family or even when life wasn’t so great. My mother was incredibly health and weight conscious and would always watch my every bite. I think she realised that if I didn’t watch my weight I would have a problem.

I grew up in a household where, the most exciting cereal was All-bran. Although I was incredibly spoilt and was very lucky to have most things in life. I always felt, like I was missing out in the food department.

I would go to friend’s houses and they would have junk food like chicken nuggets, fish fingers, chips, chocolates, biscuits etc. I would go completely crazy and indulge. It was like Christmas. I of course felt sick and swore that I’d never do it again.

To give you an example, my school lunch consisted off. A small whole wheat sandwich with tuna and Tomato, a small date & bran muffin, celery/carrot sticks and a bottle of water. All I ever wanted was a peanut butter sandwich and Niknaks.

However, I am so grateful that my mother pushed me to be involved in a lot of sports, I did swimming, surf lifesaving and hockey. I trained very hard and kept in shape. When we moved from Durban to Cape Town, things changed I wasn’t as involved in sport and then the kgs began to climb.

I then decided to go and study Hotel Management, I was introduced to the student life of pies, coke, cream sodas, two minute noodles, tequila, vodka and beer. Which I loved but my body didn’t. I did no exercise and started to gain even more weight.

Only in my mid-twenties, did I get very big and unhappy. Every time I was depressed I ate and break ups did not help either! I also went to America in 2012 and ate myself silly.

In 2013, I decided enough is enough. I tried every diet possible. HCG, X Diet, Banting, The Drinking Man’s diet, Sureslim, Weighless. Herbalife. Yes, I lost weight but I began to yo-yo. 1 year I was looking good, the next I looked like the OROS man.

When my father passed away it was a turning point

Then in 2017, my worst fear came to light. I lost my most favourite person in the whole world, my Dad. The two years before that had been very hard for me, I was in an emotionally abusive relationship and I was in a very dark place. So when I lost my dad, I thought that the wheels were going to come off and I would need to check into a clinic.

Instead, I thought about how that would upset my father. He wouldn’t want me to crumble, he would want me to be happy. I knew that the only way I could be happy again, was if I took charge of my life. I had the “enough is enough” moment again, but this time I didn’t want to be fat and unhappy anymore.

I decided to make small changes, find exercises that I would enjoy and to go see a dietician.

No more starvation diets, no more diet pills, just hard work and being kinder to myself.

I joined the gym, started with walking on the treadmill, Weight Training, Swimming and the circuit. Later on I joined classes, did some boxing and then I joined Body20.

I also addressed my nutrition.

Then suddenly, weight started to fall off. I felt more confident and began to love my body again.

I currently do Intermittent fasting,  I do not eat from 8pm until 12pm the next day. At 12pm for lunch, I eat a 3 egg omelette with mushrooms, spinach, peppers, celery and bacon (I change the type of filling every day).

At 5pm I eat raw almonds or lean biltong, I make sure I drink 3L of water a day. Only drink alcohol on the weekend and 1 or 2 drinks.

For dinner, I have anything green (veg/salad) and any meat/fish steamed, poached, grilled or roasted without sauce/basting.

I have one cheat meal a week, where I have whatever I want.

I currently go to Body20 once a week, I do 1 bumble class at gym and I do 1 boxing session once a week. I make sure that, for another 2 days of the week, I either do the circuit at gym, resistance training, or I walk on the promenade or do a yoga class. I like to mix it up, to prevent getting bored and to insure that I’m constantly pushing my body in a good way.

Throughout my journey, my parents and closest friends have been incredibly supportive. Sometimes, I still get frustrated with my mother but I know it’s only because she loves me and sees my potential and that’s why she always push so hard.

My achievements to date

I am currently down 41.9kgs. I have gone from a size 18 to 14. I haven’t had asthma attack or needed to go to hospital in 2 years. My skin has cleared, my PCOS is under control and my period has regulated naturally. The rash on my arms has gone and I no longer get short of breath when I run.

I am not super fit but I am at a level where I can enjoy a good workout, I no longer struggle to do burpees, lunges or planks.  

Although my journey is not over, my goal is to drop another 30 kgs and get down to a size 10. Even then my journey will not be over, then I need to maintain and live a healthy life forever.

I also want to share that this is not a race, you are not in competition with anyone else. Do this for you. My journey has not been easy, I fell off the wagon plenty of times and would sit at home in my pyjamas eating junk. I would order a large pizza and ice cream, coke etc. and just eat my feelings.

My biggest thank you is to Sleek Geek community for the constant inspiration and thank you to the staff at Body20 Claremont.

You’ve changed my life!!

I have learnt ten things from my weight loss journey:

1. Only you can lose the weight
2. Don’t worry about other people
3. Do this for you
4. Food is your friend, not your comfort
5. Exercise because you love body, not because you want to punish it
6. Be kind to yourself
7. If you think you’re drinking enough water, you’re wrong. Drink more!
8. See the light in the world and things you desire, shall come to you.
9. Diet pills, crash diets will never work
10. You can still be social, even though you are picking a healthier lifestyle.

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My story begins…..

High school, that time when most of us feel like we don’t know who we are and are still trying to figure it out. I was at my peak weight. I participated in a lot of sport that was hard on the body ie: gymnastics and swimming. I did a lot of cardio at the time to stay fit while eating high carb meals. I looked like a stick and had the stupid nicknames of “bones” or “split-pin”.

I thought I would always be skinny – that nothing would change. I was arrogant and I would flaunt it. Bikinis at the beach, high cut tops, short-shorts. For me, there was no such thing as having an excuse for being fat. I didn’t understand….but I learnt very quickly how things could change and that all my judgemental thoughts would come back to me ten-fold.

Abuse

I was also dealing with a lot of emotional stuff at home. Physical abuse from my mother – the one who was supposed to be my best friend according to all the movies. The one who was supposed to be my protector. But, that was not in my cards. If it was a poker game I would be losing round after round. I had an emotional breakdown in my matric year just before my prelims. I couldn’t sleep most nights.

The sleep deprivation and emotional stress pairing didn’t work so well. My dad didn’t know what the reason was and after years of telling him and him not listening or not able to believe it I stopped saying anything. I was “rebellious”. That’s what was told to me constantly. I finally stood up for myself and it ended but I was sitting with the emotional side effects of where my mother would constantly tell me how I was the child she never wanted.

Looking back now I know this was the time I started using food as a comfort. At the time I didn’t care. I just ate a load of rubbish. Chips, sweets, anything that would console me. I wasn’t gaining weight so I carried on with the bad habit.  Those feelings of no self-worth carried on long into my twenties. I would still have nightmares that wouldn’t go away, would keep me awake at night. Even when I left my childhood home those emotions were trailing not too far behind.

Miscarriage

Fast forward a few years and I am now 21. Still relatively lean but I had an unexpected pregnancy. I was devastated. I was not ready to have a child yet. At twelve weeks I miscarried and that devastated me even more. I also found out on the same day that my chances of having children and carrying them to term were low. All I could think was why me?

I cried myself to sleep most nights and my fiance at the time didn’t get it and didn’t understand. This feeling from not wanting to be pregnant to not being pregnant and wanting to be, to wanting to have a child. It put a lot of strain on the relationship and I ate my feelings away. More like drowning in food to console the emptiness I felt at that time.

When I did find myself again I had lost most of the weight I’d gained. And all I did was eat healthy and workout moderately. More than a year had passed when I found out I was pregnant again. We were only married two months at the time and all the previous fears surfaced again, what the Doctor had said kept repeating itself over and over again. I was terrified!

A baby and weight gain 

After finding a great Obstetrician my healthy baby was born. I’d been put on bed – rest for the duration. For those who don’t know that’s when you lie all day, only getting up for the loo or food. I gained 33kg’s during my first pregnancy. Lost half and then after second pregnancy gained 35kg’s plus the half from the first pregnancy. I was weighing 93.5kg’s!!!! This was my lowest point.

In all that time I knew I was overweight but figured I could lose it easily. I’d done it before, so why not now? I was never fat! So this should be easy right?? Wrong! I tried every diet pill, shake, fast that I could find. Hoping against hope that somewhere some diet pill would actually do what it claimed.

Feeling disgusted and disappointed when it didn’t.I hated myself so much, for what I was seeing. I was once again allowing my emotions to win. I was now that “fat friend”. The one that I would look at disapprovingly when I was younger. Karma had made its way to me of this I felt certain. Was this my lesson? Was I intended to learn to be more empathetic, caring towards those who faced the same struggle I’m facing now? I couldn’t accept that there was even a remote chance that I’d done it to myself.

I even resorted to anorexia. I stopped eating altogether. I just hated myself and what I was seeing. It didn’t last long though. I would get so dizzy and my blood pressure was constantly at a dangerous low. I was lying about eating when no food was passing my lips until my husband realised what was going on and put it into perspective for me.

Either I ate and became healthy or there would be consequences. At the time all I could think was why is he being so mean? I would eat but only when he was there and such small portions that I’m sure it was under 500 calories a day. And through all this guess what? No weight loss! Nada! All I felt was sick all the time.

My final wake-up call came at my second child’s baptism. I looked like Fiona from Shrek and not the pretty little princess version. I’d heard about the protein diet that was helping everyone lose so much weight and I decided to do my homework. I finally decided on the Ketogenic version and got the house prepped.

If I was going to do it, so was my husband.  In the back of my mind I kept hoping that this wasn’t just another fad diet. After two months of doing Keto and working out I had lost 15kg’s!!! I was stoked and kept at it for another two years where I weighed my lowest. I was doing a lot of body weight training and cardio. At the time at least twice a day. I thought “great” now I can stop and eat what I want again. Boy was I wrong!

I picked up 8kg’s to my intense disappointment. And instead of just going back to what I know worked I went into the same downward spiral of weight loss pills and shakes with no results. These stupid emotions that kept me feeling like I would never get a break – never have a win.

This continued for another 2 years of ups and downs and feeling awful in my clothes. I was not that fat girl anymore but she was all I was seeing. Would I get no relief? I wallowed in self-pity (and this we all master in) It’s better to feel sorry for yourself than to admit that you yourself are to blame for feeling unhappy and that only you yourself can change this. This was my psychological rollercoaster.

My second awakening came again from my husband who told me to stop being obsessed with my weight and the scale. That he liked the way I looked even if I didn’t (do you see the pattern here? My husband – my rock, also, the one who stepped in when I needed him most) I was so obsessed with the scale that whenever I saw one I was weighing myself. So after him giving me the emotional jerk I got back up and decided to set myself straight.  I would start distancing myself from those evil bugger emotions and get up and fight. It took a long time to get my head on straight and work through everything. It was not an easy journey at all!

There were still a lot of days of self-doubt hidden behind a fake smile. Even when I received compliments I would shrug it off as the person just trying to be nice. But, at the end of it all I am now stronger and better for it. I don’t use food to hide my emotions anymore. I hold myself accountable for my actions and when my self-doubt tries to show up I look for all the positives in my life. I count five things to be thankful for and tell the cow to get back in her closet.

I also started my own home gym so that any fragment of self-doubt about myself would not appear at the sight of someone built better or who’s thinner than me. I was being proactive by eliminating all distractions on my own journey of growth and progress. I started doing body-weight training again and cardio. I was pushing hard this time.

Thankful I found Sleekgeek 

I found the Sleekgeek Facebook Group about a year later and realised that there are so many other people just like me. All trying to be better versions of themselves. This was so inspiring and helping me so much. I would read everyone’s posts and soak up as much information as I could. All I could think of was wow! These people are amazing I wish I was like that. I watched my first challenge in the background and kept thinking to myself – hey, I can do that too.

I’m thankful for finding Sleekgeek. It has kept me accountable and helped me realise that all the time I was eating my emotions. That I was stronger than what I thought I was and that it was possible to find a second family. It makes me want to be a better , healthier version and damn the scale!! It also makes me want to help others who are going through their own struggles.

Throughout my whole journey I have learnt that arrogance will get you nowhere. You need to be thankful for your wins and stay humble. Help where you can, because everyone is going through their own challenges. Support each other even if you don’t agree. Not everyone’s demons are the same as yours so there is no one size fits all solution, just help them find theirs.

My advice to you is:

• Don’t allow your emotions to win – EVER
• You are truly stronger than you believe – just take the first step
• Even when you feel like you don’t believe in yourself, someone else is looking up to you as their inspiration whether it’s your child, a friend or someone online
• There is no such thing as failure – only lessons waiting to be learned. 

I wish you all good luck on your journeys

Tanya xxx 

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You may know Jasmine Arnold on Sleekgeek as “Budget Bokkie” sharing her low cost healthy meal ideas on our Facebook Group. Today we feature her personal story.

My journey started two years ago in the month of April 2016, I was watching another FB friend, Qanita Bester doing something that made her lost weight.  I stalked some photos of her and one photo in particular really hit home with me.  I in boxed her and asked her what she was doing in order to lose weight.

She then sent me her two week plan that literally excluded no sugar or carbs and in my head I said to myself “it’s 2 weeks, what do I have to lose”.  That evening I had my last Bar One chocolate. Never had one since, it’s been two years now.

Now let me take you back to my teens, this is like almost 29 years ago when I started becoming really fat.  I was that one fat girl in class, in PT, in the group (gosh I wasn’t even part of the group). I was the fat girl at the Matric Ball, which I actually attended.  I think I must have worn a size 40 in Matric already. Being the fat teenager, I was transforming into the fat young adult.

At the age of 29 years old I had fallen pregnant, being fat, I never thought this was possible.  Unlike most moms that have a beautiful round preggie belly – me I was just fat. I never had a preggie belly.  I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy (now 16 years old) and even though I had beautiful relationships with the opposite sex, I was still the fat girl.

Eating filled a gap like no other, not big on food, but sweet things, like cake and my all-time favourite, Marie biscuits with butter and coffee with already 2 sugars in it.  My week-end hobby (face painting) took me to kids parties where tables were always filled with more cake to eat from. My life was surrounded with party cake & treats.

Back to the present day:  I have since cut out sugar, white bread, pasta, potatoes and rice, juice, gas cooldrink and so many other little things from my everyday eating routine.  I am currently weighing 97.9kgs since 2016 and now I have dropped down from 121,6kgs.

In the beginning of my journey I never did any exercise. I gradually went down to as far as 108kgs and decided I need to start walking…….which I did, I walked for a full year until my exercise partner Razia Morrison encouraged me to start running – this was like the worse suggestion ever……..we then practiced running from one pole to another……..long story very short, I have since completed 2 x 10 km races and have 4 parkruns in the bag…….oh did I mention I joined a running club (Brimstone Itheko).

My goals were realistic and short term.  Once I started I just wanted to get into the double digits, so I am there now and now I just want to see 90kgs on the scale.

Giving you advice on this process, it’s journey of the head and heart, something only you can decide on doing because it is for you, and no one else.  No one can make you do this. Once you start you will encounter many stumbling blocks, there are super ugly days but if you remain determined and consistent you will get there.  It’s not an expensive journey, you make it work for you and your pocket.

There is nothing like trying.  You really just need to put your best foot forward and do it………in our religion we start everything with an intention and that is made in the heart and if the intention is pure and good, everything else will fall into place.

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I started with my weight loss journey 4 and a half years ago, I never realised how overweight I was until I had been looking through photos of myself with my nephew and realised enough was enough and it was time to finally take control of my life and my health.

The beginning:

I was never a small child as far as I can remember and I was made fun of in Primary school which continued into High school about my weight. I turned to food as my comfort which caused a spiral effect. The more weight I put on the more depressed I became, the more food I ate.
My father died at the age of 45 from heart disease, he had high cholesterol and high blood pressure and I realised that if I didn’t make a change fast I could end up with the same illnesses.
I used to eat a large packet of “Liquorice Allsorts” every day, endless slices of bread and way too many takeaways than I’d like to count. In my late teens I started drinking, endless amounts of alcohol which never agreed with my body. It was all a terrible unhealthy mess.

The change:

I joined Virgin Active on the 1st of May and said to myself it’s now or never. No more crash diets , no more binge eating, no more self hate. I refused to weigh myself when I joined the gym because I was so embarrassed and ashamed I had let myself get this way.

I wore layers of clothing to try and hide myself. I got onto the bicycle, cycled for 10 minutes, got off and went home and cried. The thought of me staying the same way I was, I was devastated and I was determined to not give up.

I cut out takeaways and kept on with the cardio every second day. I then finally signed up with a personal trainer in July and he made me finally get on the scale – I was HEARTBROKEN.

I weighed 115kgs, wore a size 50 jeans and could barely catch my breath walking up a flight of stairs.
My personal trainer was wonderful, patient and pushed me when I wanted to give up. He gave me an eating plan which consisted of lean protein (Chicken, ostrich, tuna), healthy fats (avo, peanut butter), complex low GI carbohydrates and green vegetables.

I did mainly weights or a circuit workout training and hardly any cardio – which to me was a shock to the system because it’s always been drilled into you, you do cardio to lose weight, endless hours of it. However that’s not the truth.

My support:
I have the best support structure, my family and friends stood by me through every step of the way. They still do, support is so important in this journey. Times I wanted to give up and when I wanted to no longer carry on , they pushed me and never allowed me to give up no matter how many times I fell off the wagon.

The Challenges:

As much as this entire journey and change has been the best thing I ever done, it comes with the lows. To this day when I go clothes shopping I still pick the biggest tshirt on the shelf and have to stop myself as I need to remind myself I am no longer a XXL.

The battle with the scale is another challenge, you have to stop watching the scale and start watching how your body looks and responds. Another challenge I found is trying to get people to understand why you can’t have that slice of cake , as its only one piece. Yet it’s because of the bigger picture.

The Highlights:

Being able to go swimming with my nephews and nieces at the beach and not have to worry about covering myself up.

To be able wear anything I wanted and not have to shop in the maternity section just to have clothes fit me.

Regaining my health back and finally believing in myself enough to be able to do this, to love myself enough to put myself first, no matter how many setbacks I ever faced.

To date:

I have lost roughly 55kgs in total, when I first started my journey I wanted to lose as much weight as possible and become a size 32. However I have found my passion in being strong. I no longer chase what the scale says, I chase how I feel, how heavy I can lift and how happy this makes me.

I now pride myself in being as strong as I can be, I’m very competitive so being in the gym drives me. I have set huge goals for myself for the next year coming up and plan on working on these on a daily basis.

My routine: 

I train 6 days a week, still minimal cardio and more lifting weights with a rest day on a Friday. I currently eat high lean protein foods, low carbohydrates (only due to how my body reacts to them, each person is different, it’s taken me a very long time to get to know what works and doesn’t work for my body), fruit and vegetables (Broccoli, green beans, butternut, spinach, celery, pineapple and granny smith apples). Fats mainly consist of avo and peanut butter. I either grill my food in the oven or use spray and cook. I drink 3 – 4 litres of water a day, hydration is key!

Supplementation:

Whey protein, Omega, multi vitamins and milk thistle and L Carnitine.

My Tips:

1. Stay consistent, this is a huge factor in this, no crash diets.
2. Focus on health.
3. Drink water, hydration is so important often times we confuse hunger for thirst.
4. Move, get your body moving, the endorphins released from exercising soon will become your new favourite thing.

Do it for you!

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Hi! My name is Estelle Wheeler I am a 27 year old mommy of 2 beautiful girls and wife to an awesome husband.

This is my story…

Early Life:

I was never an overweight child, growing up I was always average size and in my teens I would describe myself as curvy.

Growing up in a house where you are the youngest of 4 daughters, you look up to your older sisters and when they try a new diet or diet product you want in on the action.

Body confidence was never a huge thing in our house, someone was always on a diet or complaining about their weight. I wasn’t the most active teenager, never did any sports as I felt like that I wasn’t the “sporty” type.

To me being beautiful equalled being skin and bones, that was what was beautiful.

Throughout my childhood/teenage years I was always dieting, starving myself and afterwards I would stuff my face with anything and everything that was around the house and so my weight was always yo-yoing.

My childhood home wasn’t always the most relaxing and happiest place to be.

There were a lot of family and financial issues and that started to stress me out and at the age of 17 I had a nervous breakdown. After that I had panic attacks for every little small thing that upset me. Never knowing that the things I experienced were also affecting me emotionally and that I would carry it around for years to come and it affected a lot of aspects in my life.

At the age of 15 I started dating my now husband, and he was and is my safe place, he made me feel that I was good enough…

Early 20’s:

After school in 2009 I moved in with my boyfriend (now husband). I was happy and I had no more anxiety or any panic attacks, life was good and so was the food.
I was on a birth control pill for most of my teen years and after school I stopped using it.

Within the year of moving in together I gained 16 kgs. I stopped getting my period (Because of the weight gain and PCOS) and my hormones were crazy. The doctor diagnosed me with PCOS and told me that I will never be able get pregnant naturally, to say I was heartbroken would be understatement.

We got engaged in March 2011 and January 2012 we both started our wedding diet. By our wedding, March 2012 I had lost 13kgs and I felt awesome and 3 months after our wedding I was pregnant naturally and in April 2013 we welcomed a beautiful baby girl, I gained 17 kgs with my pregnancy and lost all of it within 2 weeks after I had my baby and I felt amazing.

Miscarriage:

When our little girl was a year old we decided it was time for baby number two, and after another year of struggling to get pregnant we were finally expecting baby number two in April 2015.

Sadly nine weeks into the pregnancy our little one went to heaven…

I was devastated, angry, confused and very depressed.

Where I would usually watch what I eat I just didn’t care anymore and my diet existed out of energy drinks and chocolates.

August 2015 my husband woke up to me sitting in the living room eating cake and drinking glass of coke for breakfast, he lost it and I couldn’t understand what the issue was. Later that day he sat me down and had a long talk with me, he told  me that he loved me and that I have always been beautiful to him but what I am doing to myself was not healthy and that my weight was getting out of hand he also said that I was starting to look very bad.

At first I was hurt and then I was angry, I could not believe that he actually said that to me but it also made me sit back and re-evaluate my lifestyle.

New Beginnings:

That Monday morning I woke up with determination and I had this fire in me to get back to my old self. I got on the scale and the number that showed on the scale was a scary 96.4kg at the age of 24.

My diet consisted of bread, pasta, lots of chocolates and energy drinks.
I started following a High Protein/ Low Carb eating plan and I also decided to get healing in other areas in my life.

First thing I had to do was get healing and find peace with losing my baby, it was so extremely hard but with my husband and God’s grace I finally made peace with it.
The second part was all the things that happened in my childhood home, I had to let it go and I had to forgive the people that did things that left emotional scars. The moment I decided that I was done with carrying around the bad memories and hatred that was the moment that I was free.

After getting the healing I needed, my journey was so much easier.

I stayed on my healthy eating plan and did a lot of different exercises like Zumba and Hip-hop Abs.

By January 2016 I had lost 18kg’s and a few weeks later I found out that I was pregnant!

In October 2016 we welcomed another healthy baby girl in to the world.
Right after my pregnancy I started working on my body again to date I have lost 21kgs and when from a size 40 jeans to 36 (almost 34) and XXL shirt to M/S

Life Today:

I am extremely grateful that my husband loved me so much that he decided to be honest with me because that was the kick in the butt that I needed.

I started to share my journey and progress on my Facebook profile and after numerous requests I started my own page on Facebook (Curvy Mom Fitness) and I share my daily life and struggles there.

Today I have women that come up to me or message me to say thank your inspiring us and it is still weird each time it happens because 3 years ago I would never have thought that I would be the one inspiring and helping others.

My husband and I both follow a high protein/low carb lifestyle and we try to also introduce the healthier versions of Chips (Sweet Potato Chips) and Cauliflower Rice to our little ones. It is my mission to make sure my 2 girls grow up loving themselves and to always make the healthier choice.

I want to be someone my daughters can be proud of!

It is so very important to have an awesome support system and my husband is my biggest cheerleader he has celebrated each gram lost and has picked me up when I haven’t felt very good about myself. He has held my hand through everything this past 12 years of my life and I want to thank him so very much for that.

People tend to ask me what Diet product I am using and when I tell them I do it the old fashioned way, healthy eating habits and exercising, they don’t believe me and that is just sad that people today think that you can only lose weight through diet products and let me tell you I was one of those people.

You can do it the old fashioned way, but you first have to get your mind healthy, that is where all the strength is and as soon as you have sorted through the emotional issues nothing will be able to hold you back.

Somedays I eat salads and other days I eat pancakes for dinner, it is not about being perfect it is about being consistent in what you eat 90% of the time.

Hope that my story can inspire you to change your life for the better.

My top 10 tips:

1. You have to be committed 24/7 – You can’t use excuses like I had dinner at family and I had to eat everything that they offer. NO!!! You don’t you can say No Thank You. 
2. Make it a Lifestyle and not a Diet. 
3. Be Consistent, you don’t have to be perfect. 
4. Enjoy the journey and celebrate every little progressed made. 
5. Definitely do before and after photos regularly it helps to see how far you have come. 
6. Love yourself enough to live a healthier lifestyle. 
7. Get moving, get off the couch and break a sweat. 
8. Don’t wait for Monday, do it now!! How many Mondays have passed since you said I will start Monday? 
9. If you tend to fall off the wagon a lot, rethink what you are doing? Because as soon as you get something that works for you, you will be able to stay on track. 
10. Healthy Mind + Healthy Body = Happy Life 

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People change their bodies for various reasons: wanting to live a longer life, wanting to feel like younger or maybe needing to get off medication, or to fit in their wedding dress. Everyone’s story is different.

This is my story.

The first time I realised I was different was when I was in standard 1 (Grade 3 now for the young ones)

The Afrikaans teacher was doing “stappe van vergylyking” (degrees of comparison) and had me stand with two other children in front of the whole class.

She proceeded to explain student #1 was vet(fat) student #2 was vetter (fatter) and yes I was vetste(fattest)!

The whole class erupted with laughter – I burst out crying – that whole year I was teased and called fatty every chance they got – I tried to ignore the jokes even though it hurt.

I lost a little weight after high school and was little chubby but cute (so I told myself).  

It was only after the birth of my second child when I got post-natal depression that I really ATE! Feelings of inadequacy and failure overwhelmed me daily and having a colic baby did not help matters – neither did people’s responses of “Just Get Over it” – so I ate even more.

And never stopped feeding my depression and confusion with food.

My next WTF moment came at my mom’s wedding (she remarried) and I was the maid of honour.

Not one family member talked about my mum’s wedding – it seems all everyone talked about was how HUGE I got and What the hell happened to the beautiful Natalie. The look of shock and disgust on their faces drove me to cry in the bathroom during the reception.

Came back to Gauteng and just continued eating as in my mind food was my only comfort. Ordinary things like playing with my 3 boys and climbing stairs were difficult for my 110kg body. But I kept telling myself – next week I will start a diet.

And I would start a diet (peanut butter diet/soup diet/13 day diet/weight loss pills) I would lose some weight but always end up picking it up again – with some added kilos. I finally accepted that I am FAT and this is ME and whoever is offended by my body can go fly a kite!

Until one day my aunt Joan suggested I look at the Sleekgeek Group on Facebook as she was concerned for my health. First I thought I had was that this is some kind of freaky cult, but I joined and stalked the page.

Started my first Sleekgeek 8-Week Challenge in January 2016, not knowing how my life would change! Didn’t get much support as my family and friends who were used to me trying “new things” and quitting. No one realised that this was a LIFESTYLE change and that I was determined to CHANGE for ME.

It was not smooth sailing. I entered many Challenges – did not complete them all but as soon as I joined the Sleekgeek Coaching Program I “clicked” that this is a journey and progress is progress no matter how small. I worked with Sleekgeek founder Elan as my private coach for 12 months. 

I joined Sleekgeek 8-Week Challenge Team Capital Squad with Jenni Murray and started doing parkruns. My first 5km was a killer, thought I was going to die! Felt unfit but I didn’t stop and just kept showing up. There is something about meeting like-minded people are just as “normal” as you and who want to change their lives for the better.

I used to let my life be controlled by the scale and used to have panic attacks when I needed to submit at check ins. Until I realised my weight does not define me and that I will not reach my goals overnight.

I didn’t follow a specific eating plan like Banting etc. I just used the information I received from the Sleekgeek Coaching and ate as clean as possible and trained my butt off. Hard work and consistency became my mantra.

I lost 35 Kgs in one and a half years and still going strong. I am finding it difficult to accept the new me and accepting compliments. I used to put away my old photos and didn’t want to be reminded of the way I looked because a part of me couldn’t believe how I have let myself go like that. But the Old Me is a part of me and I need to embrace ALL of me.

I am currently with the amazing Sleekgeek 8-Week Challenge “TeamAmazon” group and we are bringing the HEAT this 8-Week Challenge!

I’ve lost some friends since I started my journey but gained a family that accept and support me. People treated me differently after the weight loss, which speaks volumes about the society we are in. I am still the same bubbly, friendly, crazy girl I was before. Who we are has nothing to do with what others think.

What I’ve learned along the way:

• I need to love and accept myself first. Self-care is the most important way to boost and maintain both emotional and physical health. You cannot pour from an empty cup.
• Progress is progress, no matter how small. Celebrate the big AND small victories you experience. Having to adjust a belt or cutting your PB time by 2 minutes should be celebrated – but not with chocolate cake
• Reward yourself. Book a facial or a tattoo to celebrate the milestones you reach
• Be kind to yourself and have fun on your journey. Eating clean and training dirty is NOT a punishment. Living a healthier lifestyle is rewarding in itself.
• Don’t compare yourself to others. This is YOUR journey. You don’t know someone else’s struggles wrt how they got to where they are.
• Find your passion. Do you love dancing? Then try a Zumba class. Do you prefer to lift weights? Then go lift. Find what works for you and your schedule and stick to it.
• Make Time. Whether it is meal prepping on a Sunday or diarising your gym sessions. Prioritise your nutrition and training. “But I don’t have time”? MAKE time. 10 minute walk, do 10 crunches daily, or swing a kettlebell for 10 minutes. Just START.
• Inspire Others. Live a life that will make people want to get up and get moving. Share your story and encourage friends and family to join your lifestyle.
• Write your goals down. Make sure they are SMART goals
• Forgive yourself when you ‘slip up’. Life happens. Get right back to your plan/program and give it your all. Remember why you started.
• REST when needed
• And lastly, SMILE – someone might need it

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Throughout High School I was never overweight.  I was blessed with wide hips and a round booty but I embraced them.  Thanks to the Kardashians and Nicki Minaj’s of the world who made big booty’s the “in thing”.  I weighed 65kgs at the end of matric.

I have always loved food.  My weakness is sweet treats and rich creamy pasta dishes.  I always had sweets and chocolates in my desk drawer. My first permanent job had an ice cream fridge which was detrimental to my waistline but I was young and not really concerned.  

When my boyfriend (now husband) and I moved into our own place I discovered that I loved cooking and in turn enjoyed eating the meals I made even more.  I would take leftovers to work for lunch every day. I was eating too many refined carbs and far too much sugar every day.

When I saw my photos from my 21st I was shocked by how much weight I had put on.  I weighed 70 kgs at this point and it was a case of enough was enough. I needed to do something.  I started exercising and eating a bit better. My weight dropped and I felt much better about myself.

Fast forward to June 2013.  The stress of work and studying for my degree had taken its toll and I had put on the weight plus more.  I weighed 75 kgs and was very unhappy with the way I looked and felt about myself.

Going round in circles 

We were getting married in 9 months and I wanted to look my best.  I joined Virgin Active and went to gym a few times a week. I walked on the treadmill, swam, attended spinning and step classes.  I cut down on carbs and sugar and in January 2014 when we had our engagement shoot I weighed 68kgs. There is no better feeling than when the numbers on that scale drop.  I was so happy and proud that I managed to do it.

After our wedding I went back to my old eating habits because there was no motivation to stay on track and I put on a few kilos.  We were planning on having a baby so I was going to put the weight on anyway. It wasn’t the best attitude to have but it boiled down to the love of food again.

In May 2014 I found out I was pregnant with our son Riley.  My first gynae appointment at 8 weeks I weighed 75kgs. I suffered from terrible nausea for the first three months and the only way to alleviate it was by eating constantly.  I picked up about 8kgs in my first trimester and 20kgs in total. I was so close to 100kgs it was frightening. By the time it was my six week check-up after he was born I was down to 83kgs.  

After my son was born it was all about him.  I enjoyed watching him grow and learn new things and for the first year of his life he was my main focus.  I did not care how I looked. After his first birthday I wanted to lose the weight but didn’t have the motivation to do it.  I kept using the excuse “I’ve just had a baby”. I set a goal for 2016 to lose 5kgs but I did nothing to achieve it.

The turning point 

On the 4 of January 2017 the below picture from our engagement shoot three years prior popped up on my timeline.  I was at breaking point. I realised I could not keep saying to myself that I just had a baby. He was turning two in a month.  He was no baby anymore. I kept looking at that picture and I just felt like crying.

I weighed 80kgs, 7kgs more than my pre-baby weight.  12kgs more than my pre wedding weight and I was over it. I looked 6 months pregnant and felt uncomfortable in my clothes, I hated having my photo taken and clothing shopping was a nightmare.  I constantly hid behind my boy when there were any pictures being taken. I knew I had to do something.

When my husband got home that day I told him I was going for a run.  I think he almost fell on his back. I put on my takkies and put one foot in front of the other.  I only managed to jog 200m and I had to stop I was so out of breath. I was always a walker but I couldn’t feel my muscles the next day but the day I started running I could feel my muscles were sore and it was the best feeling ever.  I ran for 20 minutes that day and when I measured the route the next day it was only 2,5kms. I was a bit disappointed because it felt like 5km’s but the main thing was that I had done it, even if it was mostly walking and a bit of jogging.

I ran 2,5 kms most days after that and slowly but surely it got easier and I managed to run 1km without stopping.  The day that happened was amazing! I started eating clean, well what I thought was eating clean. I cut out carbs, even the good carbs and lived on salads mostly.  Salads for lunch and salads for supper. It was very difficult.

Weekends were my “weak end” though.  Whatever I lost during the week, I put back on over the weekend.  

I was a bit of a running snob though.  I wanted to run alone as this was considered my “me time”. Just myself and the music in my ears.  I continued like this for some time until one day I ran with another person. I actually enjoyed it and it became a habit.  It’s a lot easier showing up when you know someone is waiting for you. It was also good to have someone to say “You are not stopping now, run a bit longer.”  I bought myself a fitness tracker which was a game changer. It was always about running faster and further. I was constantly challenging myself. I did eventually learn how to run for fun as well.

Enter Sleekgeek

It was during March 2017 that I found the Sleekgeek Facebook Group.  Seeing all these inspiring stories everyday helped me so much.  I joined a running club and became very focused on my times to complete 5kms and 10kms.  I set a goal of sub 30 for 5kms and sub 60 for 10kms. I never reached these goals but I came pretty close.

In July I broke my middle toe and was told I could not run for a month.  By this point I had lost 4 kilograms but the month of not running slowed me down.  During August 2017 I did the Free Sleekgeek 30-Day Healthy Habit Challenge with my mom. It was then that I decided to do the Sleekgeek  8-Week Challenge.

I had put on 1 kilogram during the non-running period and I knew my eating plan needed some tweaking.  I started having oats for breakfast and cut out bread. I cut out most sugar and stuck to the mod carb plan.  After taking 8 months to lose 3 kilograms I lost 3.3kgs during the 8-Week challenge.

I reconnected with a friend from school, Mellissa Bosch and we helped each other through the Challenge as Buddies.  After the Challenge ended we continued to check in with each other and keep each other motivated.

It really helps to have a like-minded person to help on your journey.  We are still checking in with each other and run together every week. We have become best friends and chat every day about everything and anything and I’m so glad to have her with me on this journey.

Achievements and progress 

My goals for 2017 were to lose 7 kilograms, fit back into the jeans in the picture and run a 21 kilometre.  I’ve reached these goals and I feel so much better about myself. I had to buy a whole new wardrobe because I threw out all my thin clothes aside for the three name brand jeans I had.

I went from running 2.5kms in 20 minutes to running 5kms in 31:38 and 10kms in 1:04:58.   I went from wearing extra-large clothing to wearing medium. I completed my first half marathon on 17 September 2017.  When I got to the finish line I had tears in my eyes and I was so emotional because I was so damn proud of myself. To finish something you didn’t think was possible is the most amazing feeling in the world.  I have completed three half marathons in total so far and I have a few more to do this year.

For those of you who feel guilty about leaving your child for a little while and doing some exercise or going for a run.  Don’t feel guilty. I did in the beginning until I realised that running makes me a better person and a better mom. I run to keep myself sane.  It’s my stress relief and I feel free when I run, I honestly love it.

My dream is to complete the Comrades.   It’s a massive achievement and it’s something I want to work towards.  I would like to complete a full marathon by the end of next year and hope to do the Two Oceans Ultra Marathon in March 2020.  If I manage to achieve this and get my pace down to 5 minutes (currently 6:48 per kilometre) injury free, I will begin training for the Comrades.

My mindset about food has completely changed.  I don’t need pasta and fried foods every week. I have found much better substitutes for the unhealthy foods and I have survived.  

I no longer have sweets and chocolates in my drawers. I have biltong and fruit. I’m not saying I will never have a chocolate again because it is all about balance, but I know what effect they have on my body if I eat them every single week.  

I have also realised that good carbs are not bad for you.  I feel my weight loss was easier once I incorporated some good carbs.  I have lost 9kgs since January 2017 and 42.5cms since I measured for the eight week challenge in September 2017.  It wasn’t easy, but it was definitely worth it.

I keep my meals simple and only change the protein and carbs.  Breakfast is oats with whey protein and milk. Lunch is salad with whatever protein I have.  Supper is protein, colourful veg and some good carbs. My snacks are biltong, whey protein and full cream yoghurt and fruit (one or two per day).  If I need something sweet I have apple with some peanut butter.

My goal for weight-loss this year was to get down to 68kgs.  I don’t think I am going to reach it and I’m okay with that. I am happy with the way I look.  My body has decided that for now the scale is going to stay the same but I’m still losing cms and I’m happy with that.  

I can feel I am building muscle which may have something to do with this.  I have distanced myself from the scale. Throughout 2017 I weighed everyday and it was not good for me.  Now that I weigh 2 to 3 times a month I am a much happier person. The number on the scale should not define how you look and feel about yourself.  I weigh more than I did at my engagement shoot but I’m fitter and stronger and I think I look better. My face has slimmed down so much and my chubby cheeks are gone. So much so that I took the plunge and cut my hair the way I’ve always wanted to.  I was too scared before because of these chubby cheeks I’ve always had.

Some of my non-scale victories have been suddenly having collarbones.  I have also noticed lately that I can see my ribs on my chest. I have lost 12cms off my stomach since September last year.  My marshmallow stomach has become firm. I don’t take XL tops any more to try on. All my size 36 clothing is too big for me.  Medium tops actually fit me. I can wear fitting shirts with confidence now. The best thing I could have ever done was begin this journey.

I will be doing the Sleekgeek  8-Week Summer Challenge this year again and I can’t wait.  The Sleekgeek Community is amazing and has honestly changed my life. I would not be where I am now without Sleekgeek and the friends I have made along the way.

My tips for your journey are as follows:

• Eat Clean
• Find an exercise that you enjoy doing and then find someone to join you.  You are more likely to show up if there is someone waiting for you. It’s also more fun with a friend
• Celebrate every bit of progress even if it’s small, it’s still something
• Keep a water bottle with you wherever you go and start your day with the biggest glass of water you can find
• Take progress pictures and measure yourself
• Share your  pictures and victories with the Sleekgeek community, you may just inspire someone
• Try and keep your treat meal to one meal and not a whole weekend of meals.  I found if I had my treat meal on a Friday it became a treat weekend. I have also found that if I start my weekend mornings with oats and whey as I do the rest of the week it is much easier to stay on track
• This road is long and there are no quick fixes but it is worth all the blood, sweat and tears

This year for me is all about getting fitter and stronger and I hope to inspire some of you along the way!

Tania. 

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So this is my story….

I used to be a “skinny malinky” in school and super active. And then it all went to pits when I hit the prepubescent teen phase of my life. I…got… FAT. No amount of being active would help me to lose weight. But being young and somewhat uneducated I still ate like I always did –  bread, sugar and sweets etc. – You know, the devil’s groceries!

I got older and it got worse. And then I saw the light… sort of.

Between 2007 to around 2009 I managed to drop 40kgs and I looked good.

Then… it all came back. I cried.

PCOS

I was diagnosed with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) and with that I had insulin resistance –  fun times (not!)

There are a few of us ladies who have this issue. And “omfw”… does it make it difficult to lose weight! If only the sugar I ate could turn into the energy I needed and not the fat cells currently stuck to me like poop on a woolly blanket… I’d have been sexy.. now I’m just “seksie op seksie”.

Anyway… so in December 2017.. I weighed my heaviest..(I am too shy to say how much)  and I was also sick with a stupid stomach issue.

As always – New Year’s Resolutions here we come.

I saw a gastroenterologist and was diagnosed with EOE (I’m not typing it out.. coz people will report me for swearing) and got told… “go see a dietitian”.

(FYI – Eosinophilic (ee-uh-sin-uh-fil-ik) oesophagi’s (EoE) is a recognised chronic allergic/immune condition. A person with EoE will have inflammation of the oesophagus.)

I only got to see a proper one in April 2018 but before that between January up April I managed to lose a few kilograms on my own.

With the help of one seriously amazing dietitian I dropped a whole 15kgs from January until now over the past 7 months.

And no… I don’t work myself like a slave in the gym –  my victories all came from the kitchen.

It’s definitely true when they say – 80% kitchen 20% active lifestyle.

I still have a few more to go and I’m pushing for a further 15kgs but will see what it looks like when I’ve dropped another 5 or even 10 more.

I can tell you it’s not easy at first… never is. But once you start seeing results and you see the kilos drop… your motivation kicks in.. your want…your need to improve yourself and show everyone what you are capable of becomes a beacon of hope .. and that’s when it becomes easy and fun.

You will have times where you are demotivated.. stumbling blocks on the road to a new amazing you. Learning curves that will teach and show you what you’re truly made of. And this… this is when you become an inspiration to the people who are where you were so many months ago… Rome was never built in a day.

Never give up. And when you feel you’re going to.. just remember.. we’ve all been there or still am and we’re all in it with you.  

My personal top 5 tips

• Don’t delay in using a nutritionist,dietitian or lifestyle coach. This is pivotal to succeeding in your long-term goals of losing weight and maintaining a healthy and balanced lifestyle.
  
  I used to believe it’s a waste of time and money… And I was so wrong! There are days I wish I joined Sleekgeek sooner and went to see my dietitian just as soon. Oh the victories I could have had by now. Alas… it is NEVER too late to make changes! Healthy, conscious choices.. that’s where the magic starts!  [View Sleekgeek Nutrition coaching options here]
  
  
• Don’t be afraid to go gym, to use the weights sections (unfortunately… this is something I need to get over, but it’s difficult for me)Irrational fears will put a damper on your progress. Have self discipline and push your boundaries as far as you are comfortable with. Set goals and achieve them… NO… SMASH them!

  If you don’t know what to do, ask and you shall receive information and advice.Never be scared to ask! HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training), resistance training and restorative cardio is a must. People with Insulin resistance needs the resistance training to help convert the insulin into energy before it gets stored into fat as our bodies have insufficient mechanisms to assist with this process.

• Personally I don’t deviate from a set eating plan (bare in mind.. this is my top 5 tips in shedding kilograms and I know what happens when I get off the trail.) Stick to a nutritional, healthy and all round fulfilling eating plan.

  There is NO such thing as a diet, because diets have time limits on them, your health does not, well in some manner. You know what I mean.If you’re going to treat yourself with something yummy, do it but don’t treat yourself with something that’s not worthy! And keep it in moderation. Too much of a yummy thing is never good for you. Except avocados… hahaha.Being a woman with PCOS with added insulin resistance I try to stick to a very strict non dairy (except butter and occasional milk…and cheese). I stay away from red meats, sadly the stuff they pump into the animals have a tendency to go sit in the animal’s fatty tissue and this plays havoc on my hormones. So its chicken and fish (saying this in an air hostess voice) and sometimes pork (no fat!) venison/game meat is allowed. Seeds! Lots of them for all those essential oils and naturally yumminess. Vegetables… oh my hat. I have never in my life had soooo much veggies like I have in the past few months. Luckily I love veggies. 

  Low carb eating is also a preferred method of weight loss for women with PCOS. This will sound peculiar. Stay away from plastic products that contain BPAs (lunch tin containers where you your prepped meals go into).

• Get a support team. Get involved on the Sleekgeek Facebook Group. Support is a must. Everyone needs that friend or two they can depend on when your plans didn’t pan out.They’re key motivators and no one can do this on their own. There have been times that I honestly wanted to just quit. I wasn’t getting anywhere. I met great people along my journey and they’re there for me just as much as I’m there for them. It’s also a good thing to have an extremely supportive dietitian. Mine has been there with me the whole time.

• And lastly… stay true to yourself, to your goals, wants and needs. Your health!

Stay motivated – even when life throws you with a truck of lemons and you feel like you’re just stuck and not getting anywhere. Because.. how will you motivate others if you lost your VA-VA VOOM?

The SleekGeek Motto comes to mind…RESPECT, UPLIFT and INSPIRE.

Disclaimer: Please note that when we feature personal stories we allow community members to tell their story verbatim. Any advise or specific detail is merely the experience of the person and should not be viewed as accurate nutritional or medical advice. 

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Chantelle Mc Namara

When people ask me how my weight loss and health journey started, what triggered it and how I kept it going, I sometimes struggle to find an answer. Some people have a “moment” of clarity – they see a photo of themselves that triggers a thought process or action plan, or they feel the effect of their lifestyle on their bodies and want to make a better future. Personally, I did not even realise that I was overweight or unhealthy.

I have struggled with my weight throughout my life. I was often called “the smart sister” and my sister was “the beautiful one”. My weight would fluctuate drastically from overweight to underweight to somewhere healthy in the middle. In High School I was first team hockey and all we did was fitness. I dropped weight and ate so much that I cannot remember a moment in Matric where I wasn’t eating.

However, my relationship with food was strained. I ate when I was hungry, and ate whatever I felt like eating, but I was exercising enough, and stressing enough over final exams, that it did not matter.

My best friend and I decided to join Weight Watchers together. I lost a little bit of weight and then lost interest. Then I asked my mom to rejoin with me. My mom lost a lot of weight, I lost hardly any.

I do recall feeling unhappy at times, and feeling a lack of confidence. This was never a huge motivation for me though, and I also remember looking in the mirror  more often and being happier with what I saw then, than I do now. When I look back at photos of myself in High School, I truly do believe I had a beautiful body. I was healthy and fit, and I was by no means overweight. That is easy to see in hindsight, but as a teenage girl, that is also the hardest thing to see in the mirror. I have suffered from body dysmorphia the majority of my teen and adult life, and as a young adult trying to find her way into the world from a sheltered private school existence, my self-image truly became a battleground.

The gap year spread

After Matric is when my struggle with weight truly began. I went on a gap year to Israel, and essentially ate my way around the country. I came home 12 months later, and around 12 kgs heavier. My clothes did not fit, my mirror was persona non grata, and I distinctly remember the comments that were made about “not gaining as much weight as I had expected” when I walked out of the arrival gates at the airport.

Divorce and demons 

I am not sure what triggered it from there, but my weight steadily climbed. I was married very young, and divorced shortly thereafter. When I got divorced, I was in a terrible place – severe depression, anxiety, OCD and self-loathing were the order of the day, and I did not think I would ever get through this combination that seemed to be me waging war against myself. And perhaps this is where my journey started.

As I was forced to face my demons, I became acutely aware of the damage I was doing to myself. Subconsciously I was eating to manifest the way I was feeling for failing (I have never failed in my life, and my family lovingly call me their overachiever). As I started battling the illnesses that had been diagnosed, I started becoming more aware of what a healthy lifestyle entails.

I started getting a handle on the illnesses, and as I did, I started wanting to take care of myself more. I started running because post-divorce there was zero money for a gym contract and my bruised ego had moved back in with mom. I could not ask her to sponsor one more thing for me, and running could be done without spending money. I did not necessarily follow a plan or strategy beyond “get up, tie your laces, and go”. It was HARD. I had not run at all since my hockey days. And every step was torturous.

Running 

Despite this, I kept going. On my first “run”, I couldn’t run for more than 20 seconds without stopping to cough up a lung. Then it got easier. I started out by running 3 times a week. I moved it up to 4. I started working and got my own gym contract, and began training three times a week, with 2 short runs thrown in and a long one of between 12-18 kms on Sundays.

I started seeing a dietician because I wanted to be able to eat appropriately for someone who was exercising the way I was. I lost around 20kgs from following this routine of gym, running and an eating plan which was balanced and included a little bit of everything.

I have no idea what my heaviest weight was, I assume around 92-95 kgs, as I had already lost weight when I began seeing my dietician, and she weighed me in at 88kgs at my first consultation. Funnily enough, I do not remember being mortified. I do not remember thinking “OH EM GEE HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?!”. I think I had reached a point of complacency.

I know – I hate it when people write their stories like that too. “I started running and POOF! I was a running fairy doing long runs on Sundays!” Let me clear the air – it was so hard. I would wake up some mornings and the motivation would be so strong that I couldn’t get my running shoes on my feet fast enough. There would be days where the inner demons would rear their ugly heads and I basically had to be pushed out the door by my mom.

Because that’s the thing, my family are wonderful, and they saw the difference in me when I started exercising. Endorphin rushes are real people. And yes, the ‘runner’s high’ is real too – but it is as elusive as a unicorn. I did not run for the runners high or even the weight loss, which were wonderful side effects that arose. I ran because I needed to make sure that my lifestyle was one that did not allow for me to be in a place as dark as the one I had been in when I got divorced.

Of course, my friends were also extremely supportive, and once the compliments started rolling in, it started to feel really good. I became aware of how capable I was of achieving goals, so I began to set more of them. I ran races, I took part in competitions. I lost the competitions. And it was absolutely ok – because I had done something that I never ever thought would be possible for me. During this time, I had stopped seeing my dietician. I had received the fundamental building blocks of nutrition from her, and I began to eat a bit more intuitively.

As I became fitter, I was exposed to different forms of exercise, including pole dancing which was wonderful for my confidence, and I eventually developed a love for functional training. Monkey bars, rope climbs, running, weights, and everything that entails.

Crossfit & 30kgs down

Two years ago I joined my CrossFit box (gym). And I have never been happier. I have learned more about my body and nutrition in the last two years from my wonderful coaches, than I have in my entire life. I lost the remainder of my weight (from around 68kgs to 61kgs) following the “Zone diet” (popular in the Crossfit community) and training CrossFit 4 – 5 times a week. I have lost a total of 27kgs from the first weigh in with my dietician, so probably closer on 30kgs total weight loss.

The milestones I have hit with CrossFit never cease to amaze me. My first team competition was mind blowing, the second one even better. Every time I hit a new Personal Best (PB) on weights I feel elated, and cannot believe that I am capable of lifting that amount, let alone sometimes putting it overhead.

I can do a handstand and sometimes even squeeze out a handstand push-up. How is that even possible?! I am so proud of my body, and perhaps that is the best part.

Yes, my weight fluctuates. I do not always eat on point, and sometimes my training takes a back seat because, well, life. Part of my health journey has been the realisation that we cannot always be the idea of perfection we have in our heads. The closest I have come was last year, when for 6 months prior to my wedding I ate on point 24/7 and trained like I was being paid to do it. There is no motivation like a wedding dress. And mine showcased my tummy. The wedding came, I felt amazing in my dress and in my own skin, and then the wedding was over, and I slid a little.

But that is ok. It is so absolutely ok to have bad days, weeks, months. Life is not linear, there are a million climbs and falls contained within it, and each and every day there will be some of those testing you. I do not always have the strongest mindset, and sometimes I really do struggle to find motivation, but the truth is that I always remember what a balanced lifestyle has done for me, and I know that I need to do this for myself.

I am human. I do not like knowing I have put on weight, I do not like knowing that my fitness is not where it was a few months ago. What I love knowing is that I have the knowledge and the ability to make the changes I need to, to get back to where I was. Every single day I remember that I made these changes for myself because I needed to, because I likely would not have survived had I not, and I promise the girl that battled all those demons, that I will do everything within my capabilities to keep them away. When you realise the gift you are giving to yourself, you realise that there is no greater reward.

My tips for getting started?

1. Just do it. We all have that party/wedding/office shindig next week. Those are also just excuses not to get going. If you eat off plan for one night, it will not ruin everything you are working towards. We are human, we fail and we try again. So just start. 
2. Research, talk to people who are professionals, educate yourself. There is no one-size fits all approach to health and fitness. I learn continuously and adjust my approach accordingly. Example? I CANNOT eat oats. I know how good they are, but they make me nauseous and I struggle to shake the feeling all day. Find what works for you, and do not be scared to try more than one thing in order to do that. This is equally true for exercise and nutrition. This is a lifestyle, find one that works for you. 
3. Do not punish yourself. Remember that this IS a journey, it is not a sprint. We all do things we probably “shouldn’t” but hey, life. Don’t stress about it, don’t punish yourself. Just move on, on track, from that point. There will be setbacks, but as long as you can get back on the path you want to be on, it will not be permanent. Be gentle, we are only human after all. 
4. Recognise what you are capable of, and what you are doing. Your body is a beautiful thing, and capable of so much more than we could ever begin to imagine. Celebrate that. Take a moment to recognise that that thing you just did, you couldn’t do that last week. You go you little rockstar you. 
5. Do this for yourself. If you are doing this because you want that girl to think you are hot, or that ex to regret his decision, it is not going to work. YOU are the most important in your world. Act like it. You are not selfish for making your health and wellness a priority. You are being kind to yourself. You are making sure you are taken care of. And everything else is just a bonus that comes with it.

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My journey started when I was pregnant with my son in 2007. Having always been skinny and for most part of my young adult life weighing 55kg, it was really hard to deal with gaining almost 30kgs.

I developed gestational diabetes, which should not have been a big surprise, because both my parents are diabetics. I was also diagnosed with hypothyroidism. I felt at my lowest when a “health professional” told me that I would never be able to lose my pregnancy weight and that I would hate myself for the rest of my life. I left her office crying and felt even more depressed.

Looking back maybe she was trying to show some tough love, I don’t know… it did inspire me to lose weight, but to a point where I was borderline anorexic.

At one point I weighed 49kgs. I was obsessed with counting calories and did endless hours of cardio. I would go home during lunch and get on the exercise bike for 30 minutes, then get home after work and do it again. In my head it was “the skinnier” “the better”. For a while it all went good, but then life happened and I gained most of the weight back.

In the summer of 2013, we were having a braai with friends, with a cider in my hand, I jokingly told them that by next summer, I would have abs. We all thought it was a big joke and laughed about it, and then it was forgotten. Or was it?

It got me thinking “Why not?” Now I am someone who loves a challenge and if you told me that I can not do something, I WILL prove to you that I can. I then started a 3 year journey and became fit, I started running and lifting weights and got my abs that I set out to get, got a new job.

I was so happy!!! I was living my best life.

Then… 2016 hit me and my family HARD.

My dad passed away from a diabetes related illness. Prior to my dad’s passing I had not had McDonalds for 3 years. A day after his passing, I found myself having a McDonald’s burger. I know this may sound stupid, but I had unknowingly given in to it. Rational thoughts went out the door and I remember while taking a bite I thought to myself “What are you doing?” But I did it anyway. I just did not even care.

Two months after that my husband was admitted to hospital when he collapsed at work. We initially thought it was his heart but it turned out to be his lung. He went for x-rays, blood tests, scans, a biopsy, and still no answers could be found. We had to wait weeks for the results of the biopsy and in those weeks had to deal with the “what ifs”. It was physically and emotionally exhausting.

During this trying time of hospitals and 2 months after my dad’s passing, my husband’s dad also passed away from a stroke. As if we did not go through enough, my husband suffered a hernia and had to have an operation which he had to wait months for. He was in so much pain and the last thing I felt like doing was exercise and eat healthy. Crying, moping, drinking beer and hanging out with friends made it all “better”, or so I thought.

Back on the wagon! 

On Christmas 2017 I broke down, I started crying and did not know why, for a few days I did not want to leave the house. Working through my feelings I realised what was going on, and I resolved to do something about it. Come New Year I would get back on track, like I have set out the previous New Year.

The only difference was that I was going to have to make a few changes to myself and my surroundings. It was tough, but I had to say goodbye to a few people whom I loved but just was not good for me. I had to break free from becoming the people pleaser that I had become and find ME in there, the me who was always willing to help others, but could not do it without helping herself first.

On 8 January 2018 my journey to getting myself back started. I knew this was not going to be easy, but in the end so worth it!

I began by focusing only on the 24 hours before me. My motto has been: “One day at a time”.

I am 38 years old, mom to a grade 5 who has TONS of homework, I do not belong to a gym, I work full time and have to run an entire household…. EXCUSES EXCUSES…. I decided that none of those would be an excuse for me.

My husband and son have always been a great support system, always pushing and encouraging me to be the best version of me. And that was one thing that I knew I could always count on, no matter what. I remember one year for Mother’s Day they got me a bench, for my birthday a 10kg weights set… yes they have always supported me being a badass mom and wife

I started by exercising 10-15 minutes a day, at home, and generally just eating healthier. I cut out all sugar and junk food and gave up ciders and beer. I knew this was going to be even harder than before because I did not just want to lose weight this time, I wanted to transform my body and mind. The goal was not to be skinny but to gain muscle, gain ME back. I had to change my mindset when it came to food.

All I had ever known and done was to eat to lose weight. I started walking again. It felt so good. In no time I was lifting weights again. Heavier weights.  I was running again. I saw my body transform. I saw my mind transform. I got my smile back. I got me back. My husband got his wife back and my son got his mom back, the badass wife and mom they deserve!

The last few months have not been without trial and error, but one thing I can say, I have been healthier and happier. I have decide to focus less on the scale so it’s still kind of weird when people ask me what I weigh and I say “I really don’t know” For someone who used to weigh herself daily that is a big deal.

I do however intend to see the biokineticist every 2-3 months to compare body composition (such as body fat percentage). And a big YES for me is comparison pictures. They keep me motivated.

Also happy to report: no sign of high blood sugar and absolutely no sign of hypothyroidism. I haven’t had McDonald’s this year.

I still have a cheat meal every week and I have not been cutting any food groups and I still love a glass of wine and some pizza.

Now I am trying to help ladies lose weight with the knowledge that I have gained, mainly through my Facebook page. Knowledge IS power and I try to read up on health and fitness issues daily. Health and fitness has become my passion and I dream of one day making it more than a passion. I have learned that one is never too old!

My tips for someone starting out are:

1. Take it one day at a time. Focus only on the 24 hours before you. Repeat daily
2. Start slow. If you fall off the wagon, it is OK, just put it behind you and move on.
3. Be gentle on yourself
4. Seek support from like minded people
5. Celebrate every small accomplishment

While I will always be a work in progress, I love this journey, it has taught me so much more than losing weight or gaining muscle or whatever, it has taught me discipline and to love myself, flaws and all, because I am a tiger who has earned her stripes, for sure!

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I want to start off by saying that I am a trained health professional, trained extensively to treat disease processes. During my time of medical school training, we weren’t taught much about health as I have come to understand it today, neither about nutrition or exercise.

I know…. quite astonishing!

My journey to health started with major depression compounded in a health system falling apart. I had just graduated with a Masters in Medicine in 2013 at the age of 32. The harsh realities of working in a toxic environment broke me down. I came in wanting to make a positive contribution. The more I tried the more it took of me. I started to question my future in medicine. I couldn’t balance my work and life.

Something felt wrong. I should’ve been happy especially after adopting our little girl after a 5 year long wait after bringing home our son. Work consumed my every thought and it broke me. Today I can say that I am happy that it did, otherwise I would have never had woken up!

My thoughts were constantly fretting the past or worrying about the future. I remember sitting at the kitchen table during my sick leave and started crying because I couldn’t remember what the taste/sensation of jam and toast felt like. It dawned on me the importance of presence. Presence in this very simple moment, presence in my life and in my beautiful little family.

My journey never started with a need to change my body. All I knew was I wasn’t happy with the way my life was going. This journey has and is leading me to discover myself and that is what I appreciate the most!

The most beautiful part of my fitness journey is how it has brought my husband and I closer together. We have been through some tough years facing infertility. Overcoming that together made us realise that we could do anything together. Life is a strange but beautiful creature. We spend our lives dreaming and creating a picture of what it should look like. Infertility/Depression stripped us of all the bullshit and made us grateful for everything we have and the gift of adoption it has given us.

To us, the Sleekgeek community symbolises the pursuit of wellness in all its aspects.  

I started to notice I couldn’t breathe well. I couldn’t keep up with my 2 year old. I found the Sleekgeek Facebook Group and I loved that I wasn’t being sold shakes and supplements. I loved the idea of the Sleekgeek 8-Week Challenge and signed up.

I was shocked when I took my pictures. “Not the fok can you look like this Kaashiefah!”. I was excited for change and I needed it! One thing that got me through tough experiences in my life was and overwhelming determination and grit to finish whatever I started.  

I was excited to see what I could accomplish in 8 weeks. My advice to anyone embarking on this journey would be to start off with the  8-Week Challenge . I advocate it to all my patients who are in a similar situation. You could call me a “Sleek Geek Doctor”

MY STRATEGY

1. I made myself the most important priority in my life
2. I saw a psychiatrist and got onto antidepressants. (this was particularly hard as a health professional seeking help)
3. I started seeing a psychologist
4. I signed up to the Sleekgeek 8-Week Challenge . I think this is a great start to anyone embarking on their “wellness journey”.
5. I had a little green book in which I started journaling my behaviour, routines and aspirations.
6. I kept it simple.
7. I ate whole, fresh food (not processed) and portioned my food. I tried the “banting” diet thinking that it would be a quick fix but I could literally feel myself going nuts without carbs. This led me to the astonishing realization of “listening to your body”. I know it sounds cliché but when you take the time to notice and feel the effect of not only food but other factors/environments you get to understand what is good for you. I had to switch autopilot off and actively direct my choices.
8. I had this UFC training program I would follow twice a day at home. I didn’t feel comfortable at gym. My hubby would laugh at me when he saw my “fighting” moves but later after seeing my results he started joining me. We had so much fun!
9. I would get home after work thrice a week and went walking/running. At first I couldn’t run for 20 secs straight. I would use lamp posts as markers of my progress and every time I push a little harder. There was this little hill that would kill me and back then I thought it was crazy to think I could run up it but over time I conquered. Running melted the fat away. My body started having curves! I started feeling better about myself. Then all of a sudden the world noticed!
10. I started feeling strong mentally and pushing my body made me feel like a BEAST! Today I am able to run a 5km under 30 mins and on the 23rd September, 1 year later I will be attempting my first marathon!
11. I joined the gym about 1.5 years ago. I still feel a bit out of place in the weight section but almost as if God is listening to me. I won fitness training sessions that will hopefully make me more comfortable with weight training. I have been doing a lot of body weight training.
12. My husband and I constantly inspire and push each other to do better. We have loads of fun in the process and especially getting our little family outdoors. We have climbed Table Mountain and Lions head with our kids. Getting the kids to do park runs and fun walks.
13. Don’t be afraid to do new things! Get out of your house and enjoy the beautiful fresh air. Enjoy this beautiful country we have been given!

My Husband, my husband and my husband he is my rock! With him at my side and cheering me on has made my life beautiful. I am sure from my Sleekgeek posts you can see that I love this guy! The key is to have fun, be silly and focus on your path. By doing this you won’t have time to pay attention to the naysayers.

Make the circle bigger 

My extended family has all jumped on board and getting fit. My parents stopped smoking. My little sister is getting her postpartum bum into shape! Overall our family has become stronger through fitness.

My support network has grown over the last 2 years. I love the running community! I think runners understand the power of enjoying the journey even if it’s hard. I never would have thought of myself as a runner but it has completely changed me.

I would like to say thank you to founders Elan and Eric for this wonderful Sleekgeek community. You lead by example and showing us “the good, the bad and the ugly” and owning it! I love people who are sincere and real. The Sleekgeek community supports each other like wildfire!!!

Highlights/ milestones

1. My first Sleekgeek 8-Week Challenge. 
2. Running my first “under 30min” 5km
3. My first 21km done all alone
4. Being able to do a handstand again
5. New sexy Wardrobe (size 40 to 32)
6. Acro Yoga with my husband
7. Travelling

Lows: serious challenges

1. Dealing with toxic people (TIP: kindness honesty kills them)
2. I still can’t wake up at 5am!
3. Zinger wings and doughnuts (instead of having 8 I will have 2)
4. Self-esteem issues
5. Confronting my own demons

Some valuable tips

1. Be honest with yourself. Get help when you need it. Health is not only a great body but good mind and happy Heart! Depression is serious and can kill you. Speak out and remove the stigma.
2. Keep it simple. Listen to your body. Notice how you feel when eating certain foods. Get educated and just start. Put yourself first. That means being selfish, slow down and doing right with yourself first before anyone else.
3. If you are in a relationship, do it together!
4. Have fun and don’t be afraid to try new things even if it scares you!

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If you are like me, you would want to skip right to the end to see ‘how did she do it’

Unfortunately every success story starts somewhere.

From my mom who could cook up a storm, lack of knowledge when it comes to nutrition, not loving exercise, binge eating then throwing up, a fat feeding boyfriend, a pregnancy and raising a baby on my own , meeting my knight in shining armour, getting married then moving to a farm becoming a housewife/stay at home mom after being a successful business woman and then finally a second pregnancy…

My weight loss has always been up and down since the age of 9.

Over the years i tried so many different diets and diet drugs, but it always ended in yo-yo’ing.

Turning point 

In 2015 i was left feeling so depressed when 3 digits stared back at me , how could i let it get this bad?

I joined Weigh-less for the third time in my life  and this is where my life started changing. In that year I would say that’s where i started getting better insights about food, nutrition and calories.

Crash diets

2016 – 2018 I have been on and off crash diets like the 28 day diet. I saw a plastic surgeon for a breast reduction consultation Feb 2018  and he gave me an ideal weight before he would perform the surgery.

When we got home my husband said he gives me 2 months to get to that weight and we booked the surgery for that day. So I had no excuses I had to do it .. April 25th 2018 I had my surgery done.

After my surgery I gained 4kgs again and knew I am doomed to fail if I don’t take action now.

I have always known i needed a lifestyle change, but kept telling myself ‘ quick fix first, lifestyle later’ guess this time round it was later for me .

Enter Sleekgeek

I have been following Sleekgeek Facebook Group for a while and knew they were all about healthy living , so i decided to post on their group to say ‘NO MORE’!

A day or two later Elan our Sleekgeek founder messaged me to say a good samaritan wanted to donate her Sleekgeek 8-Week Challenge entry to me. I mean I have always seen this challenge, even considered doing it , but who was i fooling – i could never do something like that…. I was in tears and immediately said YES!

When I got home I thought i made the biggest mistake of my life, ”how am I going to do this? I am going to waste her money, I am going to disappoint her and myself, I am 2 months post surgery so I’m limited with exercise”.

My husband who is such big support, immediately calmed my thoughts and my Dr gave me an ok for a slow start with restrictions on some exercises.

I used my calorie calculator on the internet to determine how many calories I need for my activity level and to lose weight . I then downloaded “Fat Secret” calorie counting app to help me keep track of my calories. I also made an old fashioned food diary where I write down a pre planned menu for the day , this helps a lot too for the days when you are out of ideas to page back. We don’t cut out any food groups and try to keep it as balanced as possible.

I have always been very disciplined when it comes to packing breakfast and lunch for work so I don’t have to buy anything. Staff love to buy lunch and clients treat us with nice things so I am surrounded by nice food all the time, and I am proud to say for the last year and a half 97% of the time I have said NO thank you.

Discovered exercise!

I have never been a fan of exercise, to me it was the biggest punishment ever. With this Sleekgeek 8-Week Challenge my goal was to train at least 4 days a week. We stay on a farm and I have two kids so going to a gym is not an  option.

Luckily we have a home gym that i can use. I stood in the gym clueless with what to do, so I pulled out all my old fat loss and fitness magazines. They have awesome step by step programmes to follow.

To my suprise 7 weeks later and I love exercise. I can’t skip one day and I do up to 6 sessions per week. I started challenging myself with more intense workouts now that I got the greenlight from my doctor.

You know you are hooked when you drive to work on a Saturday and pass someone that is jogging and would trade places anytime – or when it rains and you can only do a little washing and must separate the important clothes from the less important clothes only to find your gym wear falls under the important bundle.

This journey ain’t always easy, I am not always motivated, I do get tired and frustrated. That afternoon when you get home after work and rather feel like going out for that hamburger and chips that’s when discipline kicks in.  Get dressed, exercise, cook your healthy meal. Afterwards I feel so much better and so thankful because I know my weaknesses and knew I would bully myself after my bad choices.

I don’t say never eat burgers, it’s just- I was in a ‘ bad mood ‘, feeling tired and had a lack of motivation. Rather have that cheat meal in a good state of mind.

Now I look back and see just how unhealthy the crash diets are not just for the person doing it.

 I was so deprived that at times I would think if I knew I was dying rather than spending time with loved ones I would chose to rather eat , anything and everything I can get my hands on.

I realised now how I sabotaged my family’s health by making or buying them the the quickest unhealthiest meal I had energy for while I had to eat the ‘meal’ my diet said.

I haven’t been cooking separate meals or anything extra, everyone in my family eats the same as I do.

Loving myself!

With my body transforming I have so much more energy and confidence. I have learnt to love my body and my stretch marks.Our marriage went from great to amazing. And my husband changed his life for the better with me.

My biggest challenge have definitely always been social gatherings –  christmas, new years ,stork parties, bachelors, family braai’s and even funerals since it’s all planned around food and snacks. I have come to the realisation that food has always been there, food will always be there, how I act around it will make the difference. I value my health and I love my body and because I do that it’s so much easier to stay in control.

Being overweight stole a big part of my life. I missed out on fun with my kids, I missed out being maid of honour on my own brothers wedding. I won’t allow it to steal from my future or my health. And I want my parents to see me at my best.

Sleekgeek Summer Challenge! – I am bringing the heat! 

My plan from here is to join the next Sleekgeek 8-Week Summer Challenge (already on the VIP waiting list) and in these 8 weeks I want to stop counting calories and learn portion control according to the Sleekgeek Foodlist. Let’s face it you can’t count calories till the age of 80.

My husband hid the scale because I let that determine my mood, and I now need to learn and understand that my body can change but my weight might not and that number won’t define me.

If I could give anyone advise, I would say to: 

• Learn your weaknesses and know your strengths.
• Everyday try and give 1% better than yesterday, 365 days later you will be 365% better.
• Keep yourself busy with people that has the same goal and struggles as you – like Sleekgeek community fitness and fat loss magazines.
• Keep looking till you find something you absolutely love about your body. Trust me you will soon love it all.
• Remember that every little effort adds up . A year from now you won’t believe the difference.  

In these past 3 years with all the ups and downs I have lost 30.4 kgs. 

NEVER GIVE UP! 

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Wow, where do I even start?

Let’s start at the beginning. I have always struggled with my weight and because I am a shy introvert. People saw this as a “weak” spot.

From primary school, through high school and even varsity, I was teased and shamed to a point where all would do is turn to food and cover EVERYTHING up. I never wanted to take my shirt off, even on holiday where I knew no one.

It got to a point where I never wanted to leave the house and then one day I met a great gent who was opening a gym in my area. He was a professional football player and decided to help me on my journey to be more confident and help bring me out my shell. He took me in and helped me develop myself. 4-5 years passed and the way I started to see myself was changing!

I started to set small attainable goals that I knew I would be able to achieve.

Once I did this, I made them a little bigger and bigger. This was going exceptionally well till I hit a plateau. This is where I finally understood that eating the correct foods and taking the right supplementation was needed.

I started doing meal prep with my mother and girlfriend which consisted on about 3 hours of our Sunday, cooking and weighing the meals in the correct portions.

Once I started doing this, the results started to speed up. Then, BOOM, another wall. I was not getting the extra results I wanted, and I wanted to give up.

The Sleekgeek Facebook Group showed me that we all have ups and downs, but we have to keep our heads up and doing it for ourselves because no one else will do it for us.

Mindset shift

Once you decide this is what you want, your mind will go from, “ag, whats a burger or 3, what’s a chocolate or a slab, if I’m eating this it won’t matter” to “if I wanted a burger, I can have it, BUT do I really wanted it or need it?”

These are the decisions that define us and once we can do this, we can have and develop the lifestyle we want. We all have different goals. I want to be fitter, I want to be stronger, I want to look good naked… but these are our own goals, and no one should ever have a say in this.

Be Your Own Hero

Like I say, we are doing this for us and no one else. The only person in control of your life is you and you alone. Never compare yourself to anyone, never wish for what that have, just create your own happiness.

I like to live by a little saying of “Blood and sweat is given but respect is earned”. This is not an easy journey to do but the results are really amazing and if I can do it, anyone can!!

Here are my tips and tricks that have helped me:

1. Stay hydrated with water. Sometimes when you are hungry, try water in case you are just thirsty. 
2. If you are hungry, EAT! Do not starve yourself. Small healthy meals go a long way. 
3. You can go out and enjoy life! This is not a prison sentence. If you are out and you want a burger with mates, have one, just remove the bun and eat slowly. 
4. Get your vitamins in! These helps when you are tired and feeling sick. 
5. We all have off/bad days at the gym and do not want to go. Just get your little bum up and go! 15 minutes  of cardio or light weights is better than doing nothing! 
6. Lastly, it’s not about how long it takes, how slow you move, it’s about getting up and doing it. Remember, moving slowly is better than not moving at all.

Thank you the everyone in the Sleekgeek community for the love and support.

We are a unit and we are here for each other. If you want to know anything just ask. There is no such thing a stupid question. We are here to help lift each other up and change everyone’s life day by day!

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From childhood, I have always been a skinny girl…but that came from not eating. I didn’t do much sports at school, played a little hockey and that was about it. After leaving school and the comfort of home my life changed.

Food, social life and day to day activities changed. I was a travelling rep and it was easy to buy take out. On the road, always away from home, junk food was “easy”. Any form of workout was the furthest from my mind. My husband now and I went overseas for 3 years and had a jol. Drinking, eating and partying. What a life it was and that was when my weight decided to sky rocket.

It wasn’t easy for me because I was always the skinny one in the family…and now I wasn’t. My family was shocked and often made fun of me.

I had my first child at age 27 in 2012. I picked up a whopping 22kg because hey, pies and steri stumpies was the crave of the century. After giving birth I maybe lost 10kg of that but that was it. I thought it was easier to buy bigger clothes then eating salads and walking or gymming. I then had my second baby in 2014 and picked up 15kg. That left me at 78kg.

Sleekgeek 8-Week Challenge was the turning point

My friend Kerry introduced me to the Sleekgeek Facebook Group. Yes, it was nice seeing everyone lose weight and seeing everyone’s transformation. But in the back of my mind, I said I could never do that. I don’t finish anything that I start so why bother.

She then paid and signed me up for the Sleekgeek 8-Week Challenge. I was excited and nervous. I was excited because maybe I could do it and nervous because what if I couldn’t and she paid that money for nothing.

I chatted to my husband and colleagues and they all supported me. They knew I had an unhealthy relationship with chocolates and sweets. To the point where I could eat 3 slabs in one day no problem.

The first week wasn’t easy. I won’t lie. When you think that if you buy a chocolate and no one sees you its ok. The cravings were bad. Water was evil and the headaches were BAD. But I kept thinking, “Kerry paid this money chick…you better do this!”

By week three, my attitude changed. My clothes were fitting better, I was loving the “new” food choices, water was a routine (to the point I would choose it over anything). That was when it changed from “Kerry paid” to you doing this for you.

You feeling better, you laughing more, you have energy. Your skin is glowing, you day seems brighter. My husband liked the new me. The happier me. It changed from I need to lose weight to just loving the journey. It became my new addiction. Chocolates were the last thing I wanted. Each post on the Sleekgeek Facebook Group motivated me. Every like made me want to do this…BUT FOR ME.

I followed the Sleekgeek Reboot while on the 8-Week Challenge. All I did was run as I couldn’t afford gym. But just those 2 choices made me feel as I could do this and finish it. After the 8 weeks, man, I was on top of the world. I did it…for me. I did it for a happier, healthier and sexier me

It’s been 2 years and I kept my weight the same.

Yes, still ate a chocolate every now and then, but I can’t even finish 1 slab now. Bread makes me feel bloated. My food choices are so much healthier now because it is in my blood.

Sleekgeek is in my blood, mind and heart. I could never go back to how it was before. I emotionally and physically changed. I walk taller and more confident. I have even excelled in my job because I boost confidence now. I give it my all now!

My husband and I have joined the gym, bought Garmin watches and now we in this for the long run!

Any tips that I can give…

1. You must mentally, physically, emotionally make this decision. Give it your all.
2. When you feel like you want to give up…DON’T! You are better and stronger than this.
3. Prepare yourself and meal prep. Makes things a little easier. Junk food is easier to prepare and to buy. No quick meals!
4. I kept trying on an old pair of jeans. That was my goal…fit into these damn jeans. And today…they waaaaay too big for me
5. Explain to your family, friends and colleagues your reasons for doing this. Your fears, your struggles. They will understand and support you!

Sleekgeek has changed my life. And I am forever grateful. Not only for my eating habits, but for a sexier happier ass kicking person I am today!

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My journey to losing 30kgs hasn’t been an easy one. Well .. the first time I lost it was. The first time you ask? That’s because I put a large portion of it back on the first time around.

I wasn’t fully aware of my weightloss journey and wasn’t in the same space I am in now. That woman was motivated, had a strong case of “beginners’ luck” but she still didn’t know self-love, self-acceptance and even after losing 30kgs didn’t have the confidence and perception of her own beauty.

The second time “30kg leaner me”, is a whole other Diva. To my core I know who I am. Here is a little bit of my story.

I was always the chubby kid. I played a lot, but I still loved donuts. I was the overweight awkward teen. I played sport, but never made the first team, I had a home gym but still wasn’t able to wear a bikini.

As a young adult, I partied hard (actually very hard), and we all know what copious number of cocktails followed by a “hangover culling breakfasts” do for one’s caloric intake. I did nothing about it. I found myself working a desk bound job eating a selection of Pizza, Subs or Sushi for lunch washed down with a Monster because I had no energy.

I remember one summer where I drank half a Monster instead of Coffee as my morning kick-start because it was too hot. Pasta for dinner of course because that all I could really cook, and really enjoyed. I had ballooned to 136.5kgs and I had no idea how I had gotten there. I honestly can’t say I was unhappy, yes I wanted my life to be different, more fulfilling, but I was still the life of the party (when I went out), loved by everyone and that’s all mattered to me. I was successful in my own right, and really didn’t conceive having anything better for my life at the time. I was working towards my studies and was okay just living life in the way that I did.

Body Dysmorphia

One of the last memories I have of shopping as a morbidly overweight person; was buying a size 12 (very stretchy skirt) and thinking gosh, size 12 I am still killing it. The same day I had to purchase a size 22 top and size 20 jacket with a button that wanted to pop off when I closed it, because nothing “cute” would fit me. I remember being in that change room of that infamous big person ladies clothing shop thinking, this can’t be right. It was. I was so jaded and with such an exceptional case of body dysmorphia that I truly did not realise I was that overweight. 136.5 Kgs and a size 22 (which I needed to stretch out), to be exact.

Enter Sleekgeek 

This however wasn’t the trigger. I still can’t tell you what drove me to want change. All that I do remember is stumbling across the Sleekgeek Facebook community and printing out the 30 Day Sleekgeek Reboot Challenge and telling my mom that from the 1st of August 2014 this was what we were going to do for 30 days. Just 30 days.

I remember there was a member who posted their meal plan and this was my starting point. From the Sleekgirls Group I printed out a whole bunch of 30 Day Fitness Challenges and that truly was where I started. I had no specific objective other than to see the outcome. I didn’t want to get lean overnight. Didn’t want to prance in a Bikini (okay maybe a Zara dress). All I wanted was change. Something inside me knew I was deeply unhealthy and that even though I didn’t see it, I needed to change it. I made a promise to myself that I would live a different life, one of adventure, one of passion and one of fulfilment.

Was Reboot tough? Errr ya, initially anyway. I hate vegetables, but I got used to coconut milk in my coffee, loved strawberries dipped in nut butter, fooled myself into believing Cauliflower could be anything and truly found my groove and started feeling better. That is the key. I felt better, more energetic and like I could keep this going.

I started “training”, it truly was a humble beginning but exercise albeit daunting was something I knew I needed to start. When compared to the Crossfit WODs, Power Lifting, Obstacle Course Races and Trail Runs that my training currently comprises of, I am honestly always in awe of where I come from.

I armed myself with a Squat Challenge, a Push-Up Challenge, a Burpee Challenge and a Treadmill I started my journey to fitness. Let me paint a quick picture for you: in my cramped lounge because I shuddered at the thought of going back to a commercial gym, on a carpet, two dogs cheering me on I started my programs. I could barely do quarter Squats, I managed a grand total of 3 Push-Ups and 3 Burpees. Those Burpees were largely unpleasant, weighing 130+kgs, my belly slapped me, my heart was pounding and I truly wondered WTF I was getting myself into. Needless to say those were the last Burpees I did for a little while. I would power walk on that treadmill until it literally started smoking; that all was quite simply where I started.

I saw results quickly, I went “low carb” and did mostly home training for the first while and lost 30kgs in 12 months. Yeah! I was owning it! But…I wasn’t consistent. I didn’t take long before I was back at 115kg’s which I maintained for like forever and then I was down to 108 and back up to something else. That was the continuous dance I did. See the trouble with my journey is inconsistency. I will go hard for a little while and would often end up sick or injured because of the rapid change and lack of balance and then ended binging and back to where I started.

One thing that never fails me is ability to just start again. I feel like I am the poster child for just keeping going. 4 years to be exact. People always compliment me on my commitment to my cause of a better life. I’ve realised I can’t see myself at my goal weight, but what I can see is living my best life and being the best version of myself I can be, that is what motivates me.

Highs and lows 

A lot has transpired in this 4 year journey, there has been some good, some great and some very very ugly. As a result of my magnificent new confidence I made a complete career change in which I am extremely successful. I started dating, which is a huge thing for me because I remember hating my body to the point that I did not want to share it with anyone. I feared having a partner and having him labelled as a “Chubby Chaser”. Sadly no one can really keep up with this wild personality and woman on such a mission of self-discovery. But I am dating and that is a huge thing for me.

A massive low, and something that truly affected me emotionally, mentally and physically was the crippling loss of my father in 2016. It crashed my entire world. He was my motivator, he was the person who believed in me the most in this world (after my amazing mom), and wanted to see me accomplish every one of my goals. He did a couple of parkruns with me; and loved seeing my progress and the woman I was becoming. He would love this new fiery individual that is flourishing.

It was established that as a result of not properly coping with his loss, that I had Adrenal Fatigue and what came with my particular stage of Adrenal Fatigue was weight gain. I was back up to 125kg’s by end of 2016, with training and eating cleaner than I ever remember eating, life kind of just happened. Only whole and real foods, almost Vegan, superfoods, you name it, I tried everything to feel normal, lose weight and just have energy. I didn’t realise how sick I was until I almost had a nervous breakdown and realised I had to make some serious changes. I took a homeopathic treatment route and while I am worlds away from where I was, this is always my bodies my default coping mechanism and is something I have to be so careful and conscious of.

Crossfit and power lifting 

Amidst all of the loss and dealing with a world less colourful, I found Crossfit and powerlifting. I found myself on a lifting platform and placed 5th in my category, but truly the miracle was Crossfit. Having a community of people who lifted me up, pushed me, held me and see that I was able to achieve great things exactly where I was at. It honestly was the most beautiful experience.

I fell in love with the sport and have grown into an athlete of strength and endurance. Those around me in the box quickly came to realise that if over 100 and sometimes 120kg me could do it, they had nothing stopping them. This has been the greatest blessing to realise that my actions can assist people in changing their lives. It taught me that I always have more to give. That I can be better than I was yesterday, and that being strong is my superpower. Lifting is a huge passion of mine and it shows in the way I dominate and push myself and is something I am always working on. I may not be able to do a Pull Up and my “Double Under” Skipping is still shaky but my Deadlifts are strong AF.

My coach Bruno Calha and I are working on a few things and my weaknesses and I am looking at studying coaching. I am that passionate about the sport and how I know it can make a difference in people’s lives. I think if anyone can find the thing that drives them, that motivates them, then they are blessed.

Learn to love yourself 

I have learnt many a valuable lesson in this time. The biggest of which is to love myself exactly as I am. What if nothing changes? What if I never reach my goal weight? What if I stay being over 100kg’s? These are all mammoth questions I asked myself. I had to learn to love and accept as I am without judgement and continue to work on becoming the best version of me in the process. Take a second to really take this last paragraph in. The one thing you owe yourself in this lifetime is to honour yourself – are you doing that? Are you gentle on yourself? Do you see your beauty or your strength?

Living my best life has become the thing I strive for most in life!

Experiences, new places, new ways of finding my limit and new way of growing into this new person. I truly feel that when becoming the best version of yourself is your goal everything else falls into place.

Motivation is never constant. Believe me. I am such an all or nothing person and yet commitment is my biggest struggle. I throw everything at it when I am going balls to the walls and inevitably burn out or and this is the honest answer don’t see significant enough results to keep chipping away and moving forward. I am just complacent, if anyone has some words of wisdom for me on this subject I will take all the guidance I can get.

Dare to dream and just try, never fear being a beginner.

Can I be honest with you, and real with you for a second?

I am the most cheered person in everything I do. Never once have I received criticism. Okay maybe I have a strong “resting bitch face”, but I have always had people commend my efforts rather than breaking me down. I have tried a lot of new things – Trail Running, Gym Training, Weightlifting, Obstacle Course Racing, Crossfit, Parkrun, Beach while on holiday, Salsa. All I did was try!

Was I amazing when I started? Mostly, no. Did I want to get better? And did I just keep showing up? Yes! You are worthy of the future you dream of and every amazing thing you can conceive. You just need to hurtle yourself passed your fears first; you are stronger than your self-doubt.. Whatever you have been thinking of starting? Just do it!

Finally, to reiterate the Sleekgeek ethos – Be Your Own Hero!

Celebrate your wins! Celebrate your journey. Pick yourself up. This journey can be hard, there are days you will cry. There are days you will look in the mirror and call yourself ugly (I did that). There are days you will call yourself fat even after losing 30kgs (I still do this).

It’s up to you to see what an amazing human being you are, and truly, you are! It’s up to you and look back on where you come from and have your heart swell with pride with your own achievements because they are yours and yours alone. You have come this far, no one else. Be humbled by the magic that resides inside you, by the person within who wants to live a different life, (whatever that may mean to you). Let that “magic” be your super power and fuel every one of your dreams.

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Bloemfontein Sleekgeek Shaun King played competitive rugby and after injury lost his way. He shares his story on finding his way back to a healthy lifestyle in his own words.

As a child I used to be quite active; I played rugby since I can remember up until high school. Therefore, I never had a problem with my health and weight. As a student I continued playing rugby and never really had to worry about what I ate, because I was very active and had a fast metabolism. 

Injury

My weight gain started after I suffered an ankle injury. Unfortunately, this was also the time I had to go for the final round of trials to join the Griffons rugby union to play in the Currie cup. I wasn’t able to do any physical activity for 6months. As a result, I fell into a period of depression. I gained a lot of weight and lost a lot of confidence. This had such a negative impact on my self-esteem and my happiness as a whole. 

Taking responsibility

I was in denial for a long time. BUT THEN… my journey officially started when I realised that I have to take responsibility and make huge changes. The number on the scale was so high and it was shocking. 

From January 2018 I made the decision to take ownership of my life. I started jogging 3 times a week for the 1st month. In February I noticed that I’m not getting the results I wanted so I consulted a dietician. My family supported me so much by also adopting healthy eating habits.

In the 1st month, with the help of the dietician, I lost 5kg. This motivated me to start training more aggressively. Therefore, I began incorporating weight training and increased my cardio. Eventually I managed to run 5km comfortably and my time improved to a personal best of 31min. My abs also became visible again.

Lifestyle change

Sticking to a strict diet is very difficult for me personally so I’ve learned that it’s all about making healthy choices. Throughout this whole process I’ve learned that just going on a diet will not benefit you in the long run. It’s about changing your lifestyle and taking on a holistic approach which includes making healthy eating choices, training smart, and most importantly changing your mindset and having a positive attitude. 

Starting this journey, I just expected to lose weight and get fitter. But I’ve gained confidence and I’m much happier.

The most valuable tip I can give to the Sleekgeek community is

• Don’t be too hard on yourself
• Enjoy the process
• Celebrate every goal reached
• Get enough sleep
• Be as active as possible
• Drink enough water
• Stay disciplined.

Since starting my journey in January I’ve lost 16kg thus far.

My goal is to lose another 3kg. Once I’ve reached this goal I will be the same weight as I was when I played competitive rugby. 

Shaun. 

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I was very close to the 80kg mark on the scale and 38% body fat, when I made the decision to take control of the downward spiral that my health had taken.

At 166cm tall, this was not a healthy place to be. I had no energy, I woke up exhausted, my sleep was interrupted, my general mood in life – miserable, and I had absolutely no motivation to change anything. Then one day I woke up and felt tired of feeling tired.

A happy song on the radio reminded me of the laughter in my heart that was missing from my daily life. I knew there was so much more to me than just the physical appearance that I loathed so much, but that was all consuming. I wanted to fall in love with me again.

I had been through several long, emotionally exhausting and physically devastating failed IVF cycles. I kept putting my mental, physical and emotional state down to the hectic impact of the hormones and loss that came with that journey.

I would have lost myself 

But to stay there would have meant I would have lost so much more. I would have lost myself. That moment, when I reclaimed the joy of being me, was when it all turned around.

It was a long journey back, and not easy – but that makes the victory so much sweeter, and the determination to never go back there even more solidified. I had to dig so deep, there were times when I didn’t believe I had it in me.

It was at those times when my amazing support system I put into place (note – this was a conscious plan), particularly the most phenomenal personal training coach in the world, and my fabulous girlfriends, came to my rescue, literally talking me down from the pizza, or dragging me moaning into a gym or running session. The environment we live in daily is so confusing, with so many conflicting messages, filled with temptation, well meaning people whose advice is not necessarily wrong – but just not right for me.

A long and hard road

Probably the most critical element to my transformation was finding the right Endocrinologist. I went to 3 before I found someone who really knew their stuff, and who truly listened. I went through the mill with the first 3, tests which were so cursory, they couldn’t have seen the extent of the problem they needed to deal with. I mention this as it was not only costly, but soul destroying to keep being told that there was nothing wrong, or being given the wrong drug dosage to rectify an underlying thyroid induced auto-immune condition, Hashimoto’s. That took almost a year to rectify, 12 months wasted which I should have been healing my body, not fighting it.

I spent those 12 months trudging through the weekly torture that the strict eating plan and my gym sessions felt like, and the totally devastating checkins when nothing had shifted on the scale or in my measurements.

Finding Dr Ruder at Fourways Life hospital was a game changer for me. Within a week of being under his care I was able to lift my head, to hear the happy tune that spoke to my heart, that started me saying, I don’t want to feel tired any more.

Sleekgeek 8-Week Challenge

In that week I joined the Sleekgeek 8-Week Challenge .

I decided to follow a Paleo eating plan from the Challenge Vault and so the Transformation began.

8 weeks later I had lost 5kg and many centimetres. In those 8 weeks I promised myself that when I got to my goal weight I would treat myself to a Sexy Makeover photoshoot. That, and the After photos that I knew Elan and Eric would be seeing, were VERY strong motivators to make sure I stayed on track. Believe me when I tell you, you NEED to be accountable to something/someone on this journey … we are human, most of just can’t do this on our own.

(FYI Note from Sleekgeek: For the record challenge photos are reviewed by a female freelancer and not Elan & Eric so don’t let that put you off ladies!) 

After the first 5kgs shifted … and that was MASSIVE for me, it had taken almost 18 months to get to that point, it was like a light turned on for me, I started to listen to my body, what I needed, when I needed, and if I deviated I knew immediately how badly it impacted my sense of wellbeing.

This was the most important shift, it was no longer about losing the weight, it was about being able to function well, to feel vital, full of energy and to be able to enjoy my life.

I started running with the help of a 9to5Challenge, which taught me the discipline of consistent training and eating correctly. Even if it’s a light session, it’s better than no session at all. And you need to have fuel for your exercise, otherwise it’s really really tough.

A walk around the block gave me a sense of satisfaction no amount of comfort food ever gave me (believe me, I’m an expert on this one!). I also found out that I’m somewhat competitive… who would have thought!!! In May 2017 I won a pair of Skecher running shoes … my pride and joy – because they symbolised what I had claimed back – my health!!

50 and fabulous!

Fast forward to July 2018 … I turned 50 and have spent the past 6 months feeling the healthiest, most full of life and full of joy that I have in my entire life. I have travelled to new and exciting places, expanded my business in ways a didn’t think possible and connected with people in more meaningful ways than I could have ever imagined.

Probably the most important aspect of this #BIG50 year has been accepting that the journey is never over.

I have the new fabulousness that is menopause!! (Inserts sticky out tongue emoji!!) … hot flushes and night sweats, hormone replacement therapy which added 4kg in 10 days (gasp, horror) and the delightful (not!) mood swings and foggy brain which accompanied this part of the journey made me feel like I’d taken 20 steps backwards. But I made a conscious decision that it will not take me back to the place where I felt powerless and an emotional wreck … and believe me it is a DAILY, sometimes HOURLY decision.

To sum it up in 3 points …

• Be consistent- get back on it with the next meal, don’t wait for tomorrow. (there are 21 meals in a week, you don’t have to mess up the other 20 just because you didn’t get 1 right!)

• Make it about your health, not about the weight.

• Be realistic – there are NO quick fixes. Consider how long it took to get to your worst place, it’ll take some time to get to your best – but believe me, it is the BEST possible feeling.

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We’re testing a new format for Transformation Tuesday interviews!

Rather than letting people write their own story, we’ve decided to try and come up with a set of interesting questions that people always seem to ask as follow ups when it isn’t covered in the main story.

I’m putting myself (Eric) up as the guinnea pig and as a way to help you guys get to know me a little better

Let me know what you think!

Name: Eric Chowles
Age: 27
Location: Cape Town (Table View).

What do you do? [Job]
I’m the co-founder of Sleekgeek and head coach in the Sleekgeek Coaching Program. I also do a lot of the behind-the-scenes stuff at Sleekgeek like managing our website and technical stuff, graphics design, product development, marketing, blog post and guide writing, creating the 30-day challenges, and helping to develop Sleekgeek’s overall vision and direction.

Me (Eric) left, Elan right.
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What else do you do? [Hobbies, non-work stuff, etc]
Some of my hobbies include fly-fishing, PC gaming, photography, salsa dancing, reading, hiking, playing squash, learning new things, and working out at the gym.

What’s the time frame for your transformation pic? [Pictured at the top in featured image]
The “before” pic was taken in September 2010, and the “after” pic was taken in October 2017. Most of my transformation happened within the first 3-4 years, but I’ve still come a long way (both physically and mentally) since then.

Top 3 photos taken in 2010.
Bottom left taken in 2014, middle taken in 2013, right taken in 2016.

YOU AND SLEEKGEEK

How long have you been a member of Sleekgeek?
I first joined as a community member in November 2011. I got involved with Sleekgeek part-time in May 2012 while I completed my B.Sc in IT and then came on board full-time in January 2014.

How did you find Sleekgeek?
I honestly don’t know, I can’t remember… It somehow popped up in my newsfeed in the early days when there were like 100 members and I absolutely loved the concept. So I decided to hang around

What is your favourite part of the Sleekgeek Community?
As a community member, my favourite part of the Sleekgeek Community is being able to surround yourself with like-minded people and “re-invent” yourself as a healthier version or yourself. As a co-founder, my favourite part of the Sleekgeek Community is the massive potential that we have to reach (and help) so many people and leave a real impact on the world.

My dad and I in September 2010 vs August 2014.

NUTRITION

What’s your favourite meal?
I would have to say pizza. Especially if it’s a really good, thin-based Italian pizza. Simple and not over-the-top.

OK, now what’s your favourite healthy meal?
I really like a Greek Salad with lettuce, cucumber, tomatoes, feta, olives, bell peppers, etc. I usually add some chicken or tuna to bulk up the protein.

Also known as a “big ass salad”.

What’s your nutrition philosophy / approach? [If you have one]
I’ve tried many different diets in my life, learning a little bit from each one. As the Head Coach in the Sleekgeek Coaching Program, I’m a strong believer (and practitioner) in the habit-based nutrition approach that we teach. It’s built around the concept that we should practice the skills and build the habits that let us do healthy behaviours on a consistent and frequent basis, rather than being “on” or “off” some kind of meal plan. For example, I believe that eating some kind of protein with every meal is a healthy habit to have. So, therefore, I do that whether I’m eating a super healthy salad or having whatever I want to eat at a restaurant. It’s scalable and adaptable. Whether at home, at work, at a braai, or while traveling. You can see some of my philosophy in action in the Sleekgeek Nutrition Guide. I would say the diet that I identify with the most closely would be the Paleo Diet in terms of eating minimally processed food, but I do include a wider variety of starchy carbs, legumes, dairy, and so on.

How many meals a day do you eat?
Usually 3 solid meals. I don’t like to think about food all the time, so less is more for me. Often I’ll skip breakfast if I’m not hungry or just for convenience, and I try not to snack unless I’m genuinely hungry.

Early days, taken in April 2012. Comparing the initial progress I made with my school pants since graduating in 2009. Even my watch is loose haha.

Do you have a cheat meal / treat strategy?
I eat pretty intuitively and follow the 90/10 Rule For Moderation. I’ll aim to stick to a nutrient-dense minimally processed foods 90% of the time. If things go according to plan and I feel that I’m satisfied with my recent eating behaviours, I’ll give myself 10% flexibility to enjoy some of my favourite foods. However, if things have been a bit messy and there have been some less than ideal food situations (social events, girlfriend brings home chocolate, etc) then that 10% flexibility gets used up with that and I’ll deliberately avoid anymore “cheats” or “treats” until the next week. It’s a sort of quota system that keeps me accountable and on track.

What you’re favourite protein?
Protein powder. I freaking love it’s convenience and flexibility.

What’s your favourite veggie?
Carrots. Again, super convenient and I find it helpful to fill me up and keep me feeling fuller for longer in between meals.

September 2010 vs July 2013.

What’s your favourite carbohydrate?
I like apples. Again, super convenient and tasty.

What’s your favourite fat?
Dark chocolate! Somewhere between 80% and 90% is the sweet spot for me where just a small bit is satisfying enough while still being highly enjoyable.

Do you spend much time planning your meals or doing any meal prep?
I spend a lot of time making sure that my household is well stocked with convenient, easy-to-eat, healthy food that I actually like and will eat. Every time I shop I know more or less how much of what I need to keep me going until the next shopping trip. For me, that’s my main type of meal prep and planning ahead. In our house we do also try to cook enough food for dinner that there are some left-overs for the next day. Things like mince, rice, stew, chicken, braai meat, oven baked veg, etc. It’s a great opportunity to save a bit of time and money.

February 2012 (already having lost 15kgs) vs June 2017

EXERCISE

What’s your favourite form of exercise? [Running, yoga, weightlifting, etc]
Weightlifting.

Weightlifting definitely develops physical grit and mental toughtness.
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How long have you been training and how did you get started?
I started training in 2010 when I was 19 years old. That’s when my journey first began, and it was entirely by accident. I was going on a Contiki Tour around Europe in September and was worried about not being fit enough to manage with all of the walking. So I hired a personal trainer to help get me into the gym and thankfully he got me really stuck into it. I made a bit of progress before going to Europe, but most importantly I got right back into it when I got home again and have been training ever since. Most of the “before” photos from 2010 in this post were taken on that trip.

What does your typical workout look like?
I typically do 4-6 days of weight training in the gym, with some optional cardio, hiking, or walking on the side. My 4-day workout plan I do 2 x Lower Body workouts and 2 x Upper Body workouts (alternated). In my 6-day workout plan, I split the Upper Body workouts into a Push workout and a Pull workout. Being able to scale my workout plan between 4 and 6 workouts helps me be more consistent and OK with “less than perfect”. I stick to mainly Barbell, Dumbbell, and Bodyweight compound movement exercises such as Barbell Bench Press, Dumbbell Row, Barbell Overhead Press, Pull-Ups, Squats, Deadlifts, and Lunges. I don’t change my workouts too much, I just do what works well for me and I do it really consistently while trying to get better and stronger over time. Even while traveling, I’ll find a way to do similar stuff with suitcases and resistance bands.

Squats and deadlifts with a suitcase while in Zanzibar.

Favorite exercise? [Distance / pose / movement / etc]
Bent-Over Barbell Row.

Least favorite exercise? [Distance / pose / movement / etc]
Long distance running / cycling / cardio. It’s just too boring and feels like a waste of time to me. In terms of weightlifting, the Barbell Overhead Press.

Do you prefer to train alone or with others? Why?
I prefer to train on my own because I like to have full control over my workout schedule and hate relying or waiting on other people. I make a friendly effort to socialise with people when I’m at the gym, but when I’m actually training then my headphones are in and I’m in the zone. If I get the chance to train with a friend then I’m always down but it doesn’t happen very often and I don’t tend to seek it out. My girlfriend and I will usually go to the gym together but mostly do our separate things.

Elan and I getting a quick workout in while traveling in JHB. We find a way to train just about every day when traveling as a way to stay anchored to our health and to prove that it’s possible.

Most embarrassing training moment?
Uh, I snapped a resistance band in half by accident while warming up and it smacked me in the face. The chick next to me got such a fright from the noise! But more seriously, when I first started trying to go to the gym I was so nervous and anxious that there were days I didn’t even make it past the front desk before turning around and going home again. It can be an intimidating place for beginners, but I’ve learned that most people really don’t actually care about you being there, and many will respect you for showing up over and over again and putting in the effort. The gym is now like my second home, to the point where I (seriously) sometimes accidently pull out my garage door remote as I pull up into the gym parking lot. My girlfriend laughs at me whenever I do that so I guess it’s kind of embarrassing too haha.

Top 3 things you must have at the gym or in your gym bag?
My Sleekgeek Gym Towel, Apple AirPods for music, and a water bottle. On upper body days I also have a resistance band to warm up with and on lower body days I have my weightlifting belt.

Your next training goal?
I’ve been training a lot for aesthetics and fitness, but recently I’m switching over to getting all of my main lifts up to at least Intermediate level strength standards. Currently working the most on my squat and pull-ups / chin-ups.

Pull-ups suuuuck, but are such an awesome exercise. A very natural movement pattern that we hardly ever do in our day-to-day lives.

Top 5 songs on your training playlist?
I change my gym music quite a lot, but currently I’m listening to:

• Don’t get in my way – Zack Hemsey
• Man on a mission – Oh The Larceny
• Riot Maker – Tech N9ne
• Try ‘n Hold Me Back – Rob Bailey and The Hustle Standard
• Soldier – Eminem

How has exercise changed your life? [Made it better, etc]
Exercise has changed my life in that it’s contributed hugely to my overall confidence and discipline. I think that a lot of our confidence comes from our self-perceived value, so I feel more confident when I look good and know that I’ve put in effort into my appearance. It’s shown me how much I can actually accomplish if I set my mind to it, which is very empowering. Regular exercise also teaches you some valuable lessons about commitment, patience, hard work, and being comfortable with being uncomfortable.

MINDSET

Most memorable personal best achievement to date?
I would say my most memorable achievement is completing the Mt. Everest Base Camp hike in 2015. It still feels like just the other day and was absolutely the best thing I’ve ever done in my life. Less memorable, but perhaps more important was getting out of my “fixed mindset” where I absolutely believed I could not be fit / thin / healthy / attractive / successful. I now believe that I can acquire and get good at any skill that I dedicate enough time and effort to.

Mt. Everest Base Camp with my father in 2015.

Favorite way to treat yourself?
A shopping trip to the adidas store! I’m a huge fan of treats and rewards that enable you to achieve your goals rather than hold you back or undo your progress.

Favorite quote?
“Be your own hero.”

September 2010 vs a “Be Your Own Hero” themed Sleekgeek Dinner in December 2017.

Favourite book?
Tim Ferriss’ Tools of Titans.

What inspires and motivates you?
Myself. I’m a very self-driven person and don’t like relying on external motivation or inspiration. So I’m big on dreaming boldly, goal-setting, and tracking progress towards those goals. I believe that goals are less about what you achieve and more about who you have to become in order to achieve them. With that said, I do find that those who are imperfect and struggle, but perservere until they succeed the most inspiring. It’s inspirational in how they deal with and overcome their imperfections.

Most memorable compliment you’ve received lately?
Yikes, I’m terrible at receiving compliments. I tend to brush them off or even just flat-out ignore them. A friend of mine recently went out of her way to thank me for always being so inspirational and motivational to her. She even gave it to me on a note attached to a massive sunflower, I thought that was pretty cool and memorable! It means a lot to me because it ties into what I said about about what inspires and motivates me, and I hope that’s why I inspired and motivated her.

Conquering my major fear of public speaking. Now I love it!

Most memorable compliment you’ve given lately?
I walked into Virgin Active the other day and was waiting to be swiped in at the reception. The lady there was bent-over painting her toe nails and I had to wait a moment for her to notice me, stand up, close the bottle, and swipe me in. I could see she was kind of expecting me to be annoyed, so I made an effort to compliment her on her nails instead (I noticed that she had first done her fingernails). That’s not something that comes naturally to me (I get grumpy when I’m inconvenienced and I’m not great at thinking on the spot, especially with a stranger), but we both laughed about it, it made us both feel good, and it put me in a good mood for my workout.

For what are you most grateful?
Sooooo much, but most of all my health. It truly is the real wealth. Having come from growing up overweight and unhealthy my entire life where I couldn’t even imagine the possibility of ever being healthy and fit, I treasure it more than I can ever say. You can have all the money, friends, love, fast cars, jobs, and anything else in the world, but they are useless if you aren’t well and able to enjoy them.

What do you want to say to other community members who might be nervous or hesitant to make a start?
You don’t need to do it perfectly. I certainly don’t, and I don’t know anyone else who does. Every time you fail, you learn. The most successful people have failed and learned the most.If you find yourself hesitating to start, it’s because you’re scared of failing. Stop being so scared. Be more scared of never taking action and never achieving your goals.

What are your top 5 tips for anyone starting on a healthy journey?

• Start (and re-start) as soon as possible.

• Be less “all-or-nothing” and be more “always something”.

• Stop being a bully to yourself. You don’t need to looooooove yourself, but be kind, be encouraging, be supportive, be compassionate. Lift yourself up rather than beat yourself down. Be your own best friend.

• Your actions express your priorities. It doesn’t matter what you say or think, the only thing matters is what you do (consistently).

• Get involved. You get out of the Sleekgeek Community exactly what you put in. The people who are the most vocal, who share the most, to compliment the most, who interact the most… They’re the ones who also benefit the most.

My very first Impi Challenge in 2013 with Sleekgeeks in our very first “Eat Clean, Train Dirty” Sleekgeek t-shirts.

What else do you want to know?

What else do you want to know about ME? (I did do a live Ask Me Anything video on Facebook the other day too.)

What other questions do you think we should ask future Sleekgeeks that we interview?

Let me know in the comments below or in our Facebook Group.

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